help with interpreting a situation

LegacyUser

Ok boardsies, been thinking a lot about this the last few days and wondering so thought I'd see if anyone had any opinions on this!

I've been extremely good friends with this guy for the last three years, we're incredibly close and consider each other the best of friends. I think very highly, can tell him anything and trust him implicitly. He is funny, thoughtful and extremely caring.

Everyone tells me that he says the same about me, speaks highly of me and holds me in the highest regard. And he even tells me himself that we are such good friends and that he trusts me etc etc.

I have always been there for him and he even went out with my two best friends for fairly brief periods and I was always there to get him through it, console him or just cheer him up.

Admittedly, I have always probably had a bit of a soft spot for him but given that he had been out/was going out with my best friends, I always kinda suppressed my feelings and got on with things, which at times was tough.

We do have a very flirty friendship, I suppose, but then a few nights ago we were out and whilst we had both been drinking we were very much aware of what was going on. Basically we were the last two left in the taxi and he told me to come over and sit beside him so I did and he put his arm around me. I nestled up against him and he started playing with my hair and then I dunno, It just kind of felt really natural and I put my hand on his knee in circular motions etc (very detailed but just setting the whole scene!). Then when we got to my house I just went to kiss him on the cheek and he did likewise and not sure because I was completely unsure as to what had unfolded in the last couple of mins, but we kinda kissed on the lips and then I headed.

Anyway, we have a flirty friendship by nature and just i'm not quite sure how to read what happened in that taxi ride home.....timing was also funny as I won't see him for a wee while.

Can anyone shed some light on what happened in that taxi, what was going on and am I looking for meaning in a situation where there probably is none?
thanks

Miss Fluff

Aw, that's very sweet. Sounds like he could have a soft spot for you too. Did you talk about it/make reference to it since? Do you want more to happen? It can be a tough one if you are in the friends zone but I'd find it encouraging enough that he wanted you to cuddle up to him and was playing with your hair. He MAY have just fancied a score but nobody is going to do that for the sake of a good friendship. Sounds you both quite like each other!:)When will you see him again?

Des Carter

I believe that alcohol is a truth serum which can bring out peoples true feelings and emotions so Id say that deep down ye both have feelings for each other.

just my opinion.

Crash Bang Wall

TBH the "drunk mans words are a sober mans thoughts" seem to be in play.....in my opinion anyway

Beruthiel

If you jump his bones, he won't object.

Are you interested in taking this relationship further OP?
Cos if you are, I believe he is more than open to the idea.
I'm guessing that because you both know each other so well that taking this final step would appear to be difficult for ye.

Time to invite him round for dinner and seduce him!

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the replies so far!

Well I have seen him a few times since and there has certainly been no evidence of "oh god what were we thinking" kind of vibe off him or from me anyway.

I do like him, a lot, actually and I suppose that is the reason as to why I am thinking about what happened, about how we kind of finally broke some boundary. A part of me would love to sit him down and tell him how I really feel but I am going away to America for the summer and I won't be back until September and my gut instinct tells me to wait until I get back and to not get emotionally attached before I go away.

I also think he needs more space from girls in our class in general at the moment (with regards to relationships).

Other thoughts running through my mind-he is an affectionate drunk I'm told and maybe that was his way of telling me "he loves me to bits" as opposed to "he likes likes me" and maybe I was wrong to initiate a slightly more "sexual" gesture by putting my hands on his knee. The hair playing and quick kiss could also have been his way of showing affection towards me.

We are in in our very early 20s and given the nature of our course, we will still be around each other for another while.

I also wonder why if I have been there for him for the past three years he only now decides to make his feelings known, in the meantime, having gone out with my best friends?

Am I right in maybe staying close with him now, keeping in contact over the summer and see where things go in sept, if there is anywhere to go....?

rediguana25

yes I think you are right in keeping contact with him while you are away but please don't wait for him - if you meet someone while you're away definitely give it a go- I presume it's the J1 you are going on so you seriously need to be free going there and have loads of fun! I remember my J1 days v. well and I know I would have had a v. different experience if i was clinging onto the hopes of being with someone at home.
Sounds like he likes you a lot- but hard to call since it's all just happening after 3 yrs as you say.
All I can say is that you have great summer ahead of you and to make the most of it knowing that at the very least have a really good friend waiting for you back home.