Debs Date: Big Mistake

asleepordead

There's probably no real solution to this problem but.....

I wanted to ask one of my best friends to the grad, but this guy from school asked her before me. After that, I wasnt sure who to ask, but then I left it too late and all the girls i knew well enough to bring were asked.

My last choice was this STUNNING looking girl I know from Dublin. She has some friends down here, but I dont think alot of them are going. So I asked her, and now i really regret it....

Although beautiful, she's quite annoying, and sitting at a table with my friends will probably be kinda awkward. Is there any way I can tell her I dont want to bring her anymore? Any white lies? I know, for basically anyone reading this, youre probably thinking Im a mean bastard, but please, I panicked, and now Im really worried....:(

gloryutd

Two options. Suck it up and go or tell her the truth. One's bad for you, the other is bad for her and you.

Who goes? YOU DECIDE!

eoins23456

telling her her ass will look fat in watever dress would prob do it wouldnt go there haha.just tell her the truth and try get someone who ya get along with and will enjoy the night with.doesnt matter how they look as long as ya get along with them

jumpguy

If you tell her you don't want to go her all the girls will probably think you're an asshole tbh. I've never heard of a good way of cancelling a debs date...especially since it was you that asked her. In my opinion, suck it up and learn from this mistake is the way to go.

carefulnow100

Bring her but dont have her sit at the table and dont let her talk.
go for a walk ,bring her outside, find a corner and fill her mouth so she cant talk no matter how hard she tries!!!:D:D:D

(it worked for me!)

Crow92

Get a girlfiend, then you can say, i have a girlfriend i'm bringing her :P works perfectly


Or three simple words...

I
Am
Gay

DancingQueen:)

Is it a little early to ask people to your debs? Apart from friends with boyfriends I don't anyone who has a date.
On topic I'd say leave it a few weeks, find another girl who you get on well with and then explain to the other girl that you like the someone else and you want to ask her instead. Do it in a nice way though, if you can :cool:

**Timbuk2**

Just go with her, it would be really mean to say no after you've asked her. She probably told her friends and family that she is going with you, and she will then have to tell everybody that she isn't going anymore because she effectively got 'dumped'.

My date for the debs (one of my best friends) has got a boyfriend since we decided to go together, but we are still going together to the debs. Although the boyfriend is probably going as well (he's my friend) - I hope I don't feel like a third wheel!

frankymail

SUCK IT UP. It won't be that bad

Lawliet

jumpguy wrote: »

If you tell her you don't want to go her all the girls will probably think you're an asshole tbh. I've never heard of a good way of cancelling a debs date...especially since it was you that asked her. In my opinion, suck it up and learn from this mistake is the way to go.

This. You asked her to go, so just stop trying to get out of it and take her. Basic common decency aside, do you really think girls are going to be queuing up to go with someone who acting like such an ass to the last girl he invited?

ciano1

Fake your own death....

callaway92

be aware OP that she could have already gotten a dress. Think carefully before you ask her not to go

the_syco

asleepordead wrote: »

My last choice was this STUNNING looking girl I know from Dublin. She has some friends down here, but I dont think alot of them are going. So I asked her, and now i really regret it....

Although beautiful, she's quite annoying, and sitting at a table with my friends will probably be kinda awkward.

Ya got a good looking girl who you know has a few mates going to the same debs as you: why do you think you'll be your friends table, and not her table? Or why not both?

kev9100

asleepordead wrote: »

There's probably no real solution to this problem but.....

I wanted to ask one of my best friends to the grad, but this guy from school asked her before me. After that, I wasnt sure who to ask, but then I left it too late and all the girls i knew well enough to bring were asked.

My last choice was this STUNNING looking girl I know from Dublin. She has some friends down here, but I dont think alot of them are going. So I asked her, and now i really regret it....

Although beautiful, she's quite annoying, and sitting at a table with my friends will probably be kinda awkward. Is there any way I can tell her I dont want to bring her anymore? Any white lies? I know, for basically anyone reading this, youre probably thinking Im a mean bastard, but please, I panicked, and now Im really worried....:(

Tough ****. You asked her to go and she said yes. Unless you want to come across as a right prick, don't cancel.

GTE

Just get her bladdered damn quick. . . seriously. . .

!!!

You won't even see your date after the meal and everyone mixes up!

But yeah I'm in the same boat - wish I asked a different girl I like more! :P Oh well

DancingQueen:)

If you seriously don't want to take her be out straight and let her know. There's no point ruining your night and hers by trying to ditch her every chance you get. Get to know her a bit more first and see if you still feel the same.

Conor108

asleepordead wrote: »

My last choice was this STUNNING looking girl I know

Does. not. compute :D:D

**Timbuk2** wrote: »

Just go with her, it would be really mean to say no after you've asked her. She probably told her friends and family that she is going with you, and she will then have to tell everybody that she isn't going anymore because she effectively got 'dumped'.

Have to agree with this! You can't undo asking her at this stage without probably humiliating her and knocking your chances of getting another date. You just gotta suck it up and go with her

goldenlady131

That's way harsh... she can't be that annoying that you can't handle her for one night can she?

MaggieNF

goldenlady131 wrote: »

That's way harsh... she can't be that annoying that you can't handle her for one night can she?

like you can talk :L



anyways i say just go with her. you made your bed now lie in it

ldxo15wus6fpgm

I'd go with her. It's really not a nice thing to be asked and then told "Oh actually, I don't really like you at all". You never know, you might start to get along with her on the night! And as you said yourself, all the other girls are taken anyway!

And look at it this way, it's just one day. 10, 5 or even 2 years from now you won't give a toss, only that you got a 'deadly boord' etc. for your debs!

leavingcert

I think you should just ring her up and talk things through with her and tell her that it'll be awkward nd stuff and that you paniced and it's still a little early but would it be okay if you left it until a month before your debs until you decide coz right now you're head's ll over the place and you cant think straight and you need to have all the stress off you before you can think clearly again :P

zam

Here obviously if she's stunning you can just get one of your mates to score her and then you wont have to deal with her! Simple as!

cork*girl

Debs are so stressful..not to mind expensive.. Dress, tan, tickets, hair, make up.. blah.

how much did ye guys pay for 2tickets or 1 ticket :P ?

to the OP, she is proberly delighted to have been asked to the debs and is excited about it.. getting a dress and all.. dont crush her!! Once you have taken the photos will her and eaten the meal everyone will be mingling so it will be grand.. relax and just enjoy it!

goldenlady131

MaggieNF wrote: »

like you can talk :L

Who ARE you? :eek:

MaggieNF

goldenlady131 wrote: »

Who ARE you? :eek:

I'm you

Conor108

cosmic....

MrPirate

ciano1 wrote: »

Fake your own death....

Seems like your best option to be honest.

Lorrrrraine

If she has her dress then there is not way you can un-invite her, don't even think about it. If not, then tell her you're seeing a girl who never had her debs and you know would love to come to yours to make up for missing her own.

DamienH

Bring her, my grads was a far from civilized affair. I have seen the girl I asked once since them, that's in 4 years. Go and have a ball! It'll be one of the best nights you've had so far.

red herring

Doesn't sound like much of a problem, tbh. Its not like you have ''the love of your life'' on standby to bring to your debs instead. This girl sounds like a stunner, whats wrong with that?!
chances are you're not going to find some girl whos best mates with all your friends. its a debs, people bring dates who don't know anyone at their table, pretty normal. And as for her being annoying, people get plastered at debs and are drunkenly annoying. she'll fit right in! She'll look good in the photos with you, and thats prob all you'll remember anyway in years to come you'll just see the photo of you and this hot girl and think ''yeah, go me!''

Quite apart from the fact it would be seriously unclassy and indecent to uninvite the girl!! - and then to bring someone else instead?! wayyy uncool.

goldenlady131

MaggieNF wrote: »

I'm you

Never :P

goldenlady131

red herring wrote: »

Doesn't sound like much of a problem, tbh. Its not like you have ''the love of your life'' on standby to bring to your debs instead. This girl sounds like a stunner, whats wrong with that?!
chances are you're not going to find some girl whos best mates with all your friends. its a debs, people bring dates who don't know anyone at their table, pretty normal. And as for her being annoying, people get plastered at debs and are drunkenly annoying. she'll fit right in! /QUOTE]

Exactly!

FerrisBueller

Ah now ya can't tell her no after already inviting her. Then again see how the next few weeks go, what impression you pick up off her, etc cos she might be fairly nervous about going more than anything!

Also as everyone has said ye'll only be together for the dinner, after that everyone mixes up and you never know some of her friends might decide to go now knowing that she'll be there

Debs/Grads aren't the be all and end all. They seem it now because you're in secondary school, once you hit college it's all about the college balls that are put on for different classes, etc and everyone learns at that stage to go in a group rather than have dates haha.

That being said it's funny that I've just seen this thread, I was just thinking a while ago about my grads when half my year invited girls way too early and then uninvited them. Needless to say a lot of them ended up inviting them AGAIN (making them look even more stupid) and ditching their dates. These are the guys that struggle to score in college!

**Timbuk2**

You could always get her to break up with you. Tell her that, instead of drinking or having fun, you will be deriving Cos(A+B) and other trigonometric identities (invite her to join in). That should do the trick.

In all seriousness - just go - it's one night

0.M.GXX

I think that it is wayyy tooo last to cancel on her.. because she [prob got a dress and all that.. but I think that you should get her completely lushed before the grads/debs?..HAHA...
and then it wont be your responsibity to mind her .. her friends (girls) will...
and when there is drink involveed everyone will just loosen up.. so u'l have a great laugh...

But at the end of the day.. its your night so choose someone who u know you will have a good night with.. even if that means uninviting her as it will be well obvious if you dont want her there,,,

ENJOY:):):):):P

Lawliet

Am I the only one mildly disturbed by all the suggestions that OP gets this girl drunk off her face and then ditch her?

DancingQueen:)

Lawliet wrote: »

Am I the only one mildly disturbed by all the suggestions that OP gets this girl drunk off her face and then ditch her?

Nope, if he really doesn't want to take her he should let her know and end it before then or else both of their nights will be ruined. If I was the girl i'd prefer to know then to be brought out of pity and have everyone else know!

aine92

If shes not from around, lie and tell her you've been seeing somebody else and you're really sorry etc etc! Sounds awful but chances are she's prob not too keen on going either and possibly said it out of politeness! Good luck!

DB10

Do most people have a date at this stage? Most of my friends do. I still don't...

Most girls I know been asked already...:(

aine92

Everyone in my year had a date by the Christmas holidays...tis ridiculous, but nice to have it sorted by now I suppose

FerrisBueller

LC Results Night is generally a good time to ask at the v.latest! I got invited to 1 that week, another a few days before one!

Lawliet

FerrisBueller wrote: »

LC Results Night is generally a good time to ask at the v.latest! I got invited to 1 that week, another a few days before one!

Not if your grad is before August.

fufureida

I'm sooo glad I'm not partaking in this grad bollocks this year. Biggest waste of time. Get pissed. Watch your mates get pissed. Get your dress ruined cus some a hole spills a drink all over it. Lovely.

mrboswell

kev9100 wrote: »

Tough ****. You asked her to go and she said yes. Unless you want to come across as a right prick, don't cancel.

Think It might be a bit late for that...

Shanotheslayer

Tbh its YOUR night, if you want to bring somebody else then by all means you should. She'll proberly be pissed, but meh.

I only asked my friend a few weeks ago shes amazing looking and she has a boyf and she knows that if I have a GF by july or whatever that I'll be bring my GF. Made it very clear.



Yes, I am a prick:)