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Emotionally cheating?

  • 07-05-2010 3:28pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    i find meself in a real pickle. i been in a solid long distance relationship for some time but we don't see each other as often as we should and would like too. It's kinda stalled tbh

    Now i've met someone new in college and fallen head over heels for her. i mean she's everyting I want and i can't stop thinking about her. she has a fella too

    am i emotionally cheating on me OH? should i break up with her?

    i think this other girl likes me too but what if i try and she's not interested. i'd see her every day

    if she does, i'm breaking up another couple too. what do i do?!!!!!!!!!!!


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  • #2
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    argh123 wrote: »
    i find meself in a real pickle. i been in a solid long distance relationship for some time but we don't see each other as often as we should and would like too. It's kinda stalled tbh

    Now i've met someone new in college and fallen head over heels for her. i mean she's everyting I want and i can't stop thinking about her. she has a fella too

    am i emotionally cheating on me OH? should i break up with her?

    i think this other girl likes me too but what if i try and she's not interested. i'd see her every day

    if she does, i'm breaking up another couple too. what do i do?!!!!!!!!!!!

    If you think you are head over heels for a new girl then of course you should end it with your girlfriend. It would be incredibly unfair and selfish to keep your girlfriend hanging on when you want somebody else.

    If the new girl has a boyfriend I wouldn't advise making a move at all. Now, that does not mean you shouldn't break up with your current girlfriend. Do her a favour and end it so she can find someone else too.

    If the new girl does like you, and has any decency, she will end her relationship. Until then, enjoy your college experience and get to know her better.


  • #3
    miss5
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,319 ✭✭✭miss5


    I think you need to assess your feelings for your girlfriend before you
    pursue this girl, Also do you think she is prepared to leave her boyfriend?


  • #4
    whatsamsn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 911 ✭✭✭whatsamsn


    Chinafoot said it all.

    Either way I would end it with your girlfriend. Long distance relationships rarely work out. Usually what you are currently feeling is what happens - another grabs your attention.

    Op, lets look at the future. lets just take this girl who has a boyfriend out of the picture for a second. if this is how you feel about someone else, weather or not you get with her. you can damn well be sure someone else will grab your eye in the future. Thats the problem with Long distance. I say break up with your LDR girlfriend. Its best to breakup before anything happens with another. You could probably end up sleeping with another girl and feeling all guilty. You wouldnt even you just come out and be honest and end it.

    As for this girl in question... she has a guy. But as you say if you ask her out you'll be faced with looking at her everyday.


    personally, I found if a girl has a bf - shes off-limits. why?
    1 - if she she says no. she did a boyfriend. and your faced with looking at her.
    2 - she says yes. she breaks up with her bf. thats not going to ease your mind if you ever get into a relationship with her is it.
    and 3... the moral answer...
    3 - you wouldnt like to be on the other end of it. to be the boyfriend and for someone else to be coming onto your girl.


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