Major chemistry with ex

LegacyUser

I had major chemistry with an ex of mine we had this spark i don't know how to describe it but we had it anyway we finished due to me having to move away. But since this relationship ended i don't have the same feelings with anyone else it's just not there.

Is this normal? Is there meant to be chemistry with everyone?

LegacyUser

well chemistry can be very annoying, especially if the rest of the factors that make up a relationship aren't there or if you have to break up for practical reasons. Depending on your circumstances, and providing you both still felt this way after time has passed, it could mean you'll both make the effort to get back together, either now or down the line. Basically if its meant to be it will happen. That said, if you have to break up because of your locations, or if other parts of the relationship are bad, then the feeling that nobody else will do will wear off.
I don't know what your situation is but I know I ended a relationship where there was great chemistry, to me he was the most gorgeous guy in the world. BUt the practical things weren't there, and in the end chemistry, sadly, wasn't enough to keep us together. It's circumstances as much as chemistry that keeps people together.
Not romantic, but often true.

LegacyUser

unregistered wrote: »

well chemistry can be very annoying, especially if the rest of the factors that make up a relationship aren't there or if you have to break up for practical reasons. Depending on your circumstances, and providing you both still felt this way after time has passed, it could mean you'll both make the effort to get back together, either now or down the line. Basically if its meant to be it will happen. That said, if you have to break up because of your locations, or if other parts of the relationship are bad, then the feeling that nobody else will do will wear off.
I don't know what your situation is but I know I ended a relationship where there was great chemistry, to me he was the most gorgeous guy in the world. BUt the practical things weren't there, and in the end chemistry, sadly, wasn't enough to keep us together. It's circumstances as much as chemistry that keeps people together.
Not romantic, but often true.

I know what you mean, but getting back with him is not an option i have lost contact with him broke up with him about two years ago. Since then i havn't had any sort of the same chemistry with anyone else. It's strange but i wonder if i will have that with anyone else again.

LegacyUser

I sympathise OP. I was seeing a guy last year with whom I had the most amazing chemistry. Unfortunately, he was not a good person in other ways, cheating etc. But it was so much harder to forget the chemistry we had and to be sensible about him because he was still around and because I didn't feel anything near the same chemistry when I kissed other guys after we split up.

More than a year on, I won't lie, the odd time that I do see this ex, the butterflies arrive back and sense goes out the window to an extent. That chemistry doesn't seem to go away. He feels the same. We have cut contact for the last few months in an effort to forget each other as it would never work.

BUT, and this is where your hope lies, in the last month or so, I have FINALLY kissed a guy who made me realise that I can have chemistry with other guys. Amazing chemistry. Different to with my ex, but just as good! Won't work out with him either for various reasons (sickened!!!) but my point is, I felt the chemistry!!

So...
1. I would count yourself lucky that you don't see the ex you have chemistry with. It would only make things even worse.

2. Be patient. Keep trying!!! Eventually I have no doubt you'll find a new guy you have chemistry with. It just takes time.

Best of luck.

LegacyUser

feelyourpain wrote: »

I sympathise OP. I was seeing a guy last year with whom I had the most amazing chemistry. Unfortunately, he was not a good person in other ways, cheating etc. But it was so much harder to forget the chemistry we had and to be sensible about him because he was still around and because I didn't feel anything near the same chemistry when I kissed other guys after we split up.

More than a year on, I won't lie, the odd time that I do see this ex, the butterflies arrive back and sense goes out the window to an extent. That chemistry doesn't seem to go away. He feels the same. We have cut contact for the last few months in an effort to forget each other as it would never work.

BUT, and this is where your hope lies, in the last month or so, I have FINALLY kissed a guy who made me realise that I can have chemistry with other guys. Amazing chemistry. Different to with my ex, but just as good! Won't work out with him either for various reasons (sickened!!!) but my point is, I felt the chemistry!!

So...
1. I would count yourself lucky that you don't see the ex you have chemistry with. It would only make things even worse.

2. Be patient. Keep trying!!! Eventually I have no doubt you'll find a new guy you have chemistry with. It just takes time.

Best of luck.

Thanks feelyourpain it's nice to know i'm not the only one who feels this way. I did see him last year passed him on street and it was still there, i know i will just have to be patient.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I personally think very good chemistry isn't to be trusted!

Sure nothing beats it at the beginning but christ it makes you think sh*t peopel are great.

*not at all bitter*

LegacyUser

why dont you contact him and see what happens? you never know, he might be feeling the same way but doesn't want to contact you in case you think he's a weirdo for still having these feelings after all this time.....

LegacyUser

123.ie wrote: »

why dont you contact him and see what happens? you never know, he might be feeling the same way but doesn't want to contact you in case you think he's a weirdo for still having these feelings after all this time.....

I can't as i don't have his number anymore as i lost my phone since then and i changed the number also so he doesn't have mine.

Denimgirl

try get him on face book