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How soon is too soon?

  • 04-05-2010 3:39pm
    #1
    MonkiesforNuts
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3 ✭


    I was just wondering what you guys and gals opinons are on how soon is too soon to sleep with someone you are dating? I'm a gay lady myself, and was talking recently with a friend about it. I have to say I honestly am not sure myself as I feel that it is probably different for different people in different situations. I think personally I would just like to wait until I feel totally comfortable with the other person and that things will be going somewhere towards a relationship before I would take the next step to sleep with them. I'm not sure if this is a prudeish attitude, and would love some opinions from you guys and gals. Thanks.


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  • #2
    rainbow kirby
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 26,928 ✭✭✭✭rainbow kirby


    Honestly - whenever feels right for you and your partner. This could be the first night, this could be months down the line, everybody is different.


  • #3
    Rick_
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,620 ✭✭✭Rick_


    I don't do anything on the first date. Maybe a kiss, but that's it. I'm no prude, but I'm not a slut either. (Not that I am saying those that do are sluts, before people start getting angry!)

    It is all up to the individuals concerned though, if you feel a strong connection with them and it feels right, then go for it. I never seem to get the connection instantly but seem to after a few dates when I feel more comfortable with them, and then we move further if desired. Even if I did feel the strong connection immediately, I probably still wouldn't sleep with them until I knew them a bit better. I wouldn't want to have sex with someone who is, at that point, still a relative stranger to me.

    That's just how I am, and everybody's different. (Thank God says some of you... I can hear you!)


  • #4
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators Posts: 27,316 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    It would depend on the person really.
    I'm far from being a kid and if I would like to sleep with someone, I'm not shy about saying it.
    The nuns did a good job on me though and I do try to avoid first date sex.
    Everyone draws the line somewhere.


  • #5
    azezil
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,397 ✭✭✭✭azezil


    From my personal experience, it doesn't make a difference. I would expect at least a kiss on the first date, if I didn't get that, I'd assume the person isn't interested.

    I just prefer to not leave it too long, I've found it can become too much of a big deal when we do. Coincidentally, I had sex on the first date with the guy I'm currently seeing* and this is my longest to date, just over a year now.














    *kinda still dating, he had to move home with little possibility of coming back, at least for now :S


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