Why am I such a **** to my boyfriend!!!

greenprincess

Ok, I dont mean to be a self materalistic beep but I just ask him the stupidest things sometimes. For example, tonight, I was looking at pics from my graduation and I remembered he promisied to get me something really nice for it. Graduation day came and he hadnt gotten me anything. But he promised he would. He never did. So now, 4 months on, I texted him and asked why did he break that promise.
I'm not really angry that he didnt buy me anything just more so that he broke his promise. I swallowed a lot of empty promises as a child and I dont want a repeat of that as an adult.
But he is upset with me now that I think he would treat me like that. I know he probably didnt break his promise on purpose but i still feel disapointed when he does break his promises.
I just want to know how do I stop texting him things that end up annoying him I suppose looking back how would texting him to stop breaking his promises not hurt him!! Why am I such a beep of a girlfriend!!!!

Des Carter

Why do you text your boyfriend and not you know talk to him.

If its a long distance thing then that could be an underlying problem. However if ye see each other regularly then just talk to him about it and tell him why your so hung up on this and listen to what he has to say.

miss5

Just explain to him in a calm manner that it's not about the gift it's that
he should keep his promises. I'm sure he will understand.

Barracudaincork

Both your username and post (ie the text) scream of someone who thinks they are a princess! However, the fact you realise you are being a "beep" as you call it, makes you sound more like a princess in training

The only way to stop it is to control yourself. That may sound harsh but its the basic most simple thing you can do. Next time you feel the urge to do something like this, bite your tongue, dont press send, take control of your emotions and dont act on them.

We all have broken promises in our lives and more than likely we will always get them till the day we die, but there is a difference between the promises people should keep and the ones that dont matter. Likewise there is a difference in the promises people forget to keep and promises they deliberately dont keep.

greenprincess

Thanks for all the advice. Its not not a long distance relationship as such. We only see eachother at the weekend though because I work in Dublin. Barracudaincork thanks very much, I think your right about biting my tongue!! Because not only does it upset him but I feel awful after saying something like that!
Thanks again, I think we've it sorted now. But I will try bite my tongue in future!

Redpunto

I can understand why it would have upset you and if its a case where hes always not fulfilling promises then you might have an issue, but yes, sounds like just stop and think before you say something you think might hurt his feelings. For a relationship to work its cant be perfect and you cant expect it to be perfect.