How many personalities do you have?

Deus Ex Machina

It isn't something I like about myself, but I act completely differently depending on the people I am around. The words I use, the way I speak, everything changes when I am around particular groups of people. I'd say I have three or four distinct personalities, and some of them I don't like.

When I try to let my true self out in situations where I would usually apply on of my other personas it feels completely out of place and weird, so I revert quickly to the artifice.

I realise this is common, but is everyone like this, or can some people act basically the same regardless of who they are with?


Edit: When I say different personalities, I suppose I mean personas, or apparent personalities, my core personality remains the same, but how I act is entirely different depending on the situation. I can still judge the way I am acting based on how it differs from my true self, so I don't think it is a case of multiple personality disorder.

Rabies

I'm the one personality
No reason to try to fit in with others by changing

Love me or hate me.

dlofnep

I have 2 personalities.

Intelligent, articulate dlofnep.

Scanger dlofnep.

Both are extremely satisfying.

Thomas828

I've only got the one personality, mate, and it's one that I like. I'm not changing it for anybody. And if you don't like it, tough!

Corkfeen

I act like a smarmy and cynical Bastard to people I don't actually like.... Then to friends I act like a vulgar sexist pig. But around people I really like I seem like a saint. :eek: Probably another 30 different versions of my personality though. Its not any form of an act, I assume its just comfort levels more than anything.

Rented Mule

I am the God of Hell Fire.

The_Minister

I think I understand what the OP is getting at.

If I'm with friends, I tend to be relaxed and joking, if with strangers more uptight and serious, if conveying information I speak in a lecturing tone etc.

L.Jenkins

Not fond of mulitiple personality disorder as one is enough for me. If people don't like me for who I am, then they can suck on my big fat one!

pickarooney

I clicked on this while watching United States of Tara. True story, bro.

Killer Pigeon

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dissociative_identity_disorder

genericguy

i'm always the same me. except when I'm hungry. you won't like me when I'm hungry.

Goldenquick

It may be more a way of adapting your persona to each given situation.

Dean820

Its always funny when you are in a situation where two personailities have to intercept.

L.Jenkins

Apparently a record was set a few years back by a woman, who had been observed to have around 1200 seperate personalities in her lifetime. I bet she'd be fun on a night out, never knowing what you're going to get out of her.

Conor108

My name is URL

I reckon it's odder to have only 1 fixed personality in every situation than it is to differ between scenarios. Personally I act differently depending on the enviroment.. when I'm with mates I'm relaxed and jokey etc, and when I'm with strangers I'm more reserved.

Seachmall

At home I'm fairly outspoken and talk a lot of ****, with friends I'm very similar but more restrained (although they probably wouldn't believe it). Among strangers and others I'm less comfortable with I can be quite conservative (you can't be too outspoken when you're not sure how others will we react).

BBDBB

Deus Ex Machina wrote: »

It isn't something I like about myself, but I act completely differently depending on the people I am around. The words I use, the way I speak, everything changes when I am around particular groups of people. I'd say I have three or four distinct personalities, and some of them I don't like.

When I try to let my true self out in situations where I would usually apply on of my other personas it feels completely out of place and weird, so I revert quickly to the artifice.

I realise this is common, but is everyone like this, or can some people act basically the same regardless of who they are with?

I think I know what you mean Deus,

I had to develop a different "personality" at work for a job I used to do, it was a fairly senior position in a big company. At first it was about survival, being managed in a very tough way, I had to toughen up and take criticism less to heart. I found I developed a different "personality" for work, much more assertive and dominant and a lot less caring. Ultimately one of the reasons I decided to leave was because I didnt like the person I had become, ie that work "personality" started to become me at home with my family and I didnt like who that person was.

L.Jenkins

My name is URL wrote: »

I reckon it's odder to have only 1 fixed personality in every situation than it is to differ between scenarios. Personally I act differently depending on the enviroment.. when I'm with mates I'm relaxed and jokey etc, and when I'm with strangers I'm more reserved.

That's not necessarily having multiple personalities, as opposed to reacting to certain situations differently, which is apart of your personality. To clarify, due to your personality you react differently, outing with friends and reserved in the presence of strangers.

AnonoBoy

My personalities got together, formed a union and voted me out.



Bastards.

Scarinae

I think everyone does it to a certain extent - there's some things you'd talk about with your friends that you wouldn't talk about in front of your granny, for example. Generally people have to be a bit more serious and professional in work as well... I don't know if I would go as far as calling it different personalities though

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

The_Minister wrote: »

I think I understand what the OP is getting at.

If I'm with friends, I tend to be relaxed and joking, if with strangers more uptight and serious, if conveying information I speak in a lecturing tone etc.

I think that is pretty normal for humans to react that way. Change your personality to suit the scenario.

Can those who say they won't change for anybody (I think it's out of pride?), say they act the same way on a night out with mates as they would towards a potential employer in an interview? I understand that people don't want to think they have multiple personalities, as the media and society portray this as being a bad thing, there's stigma surrounding this and it's only natural people don't want to be assosiated with it.

However subtle it is, I don't think anybody stays the same and acts the same towards everyone they meet.

I talk to my good friends and act towards them differently than I would to strangers. I talk differently towards certain people. I don't consider any of this to be the same as the dreaded "split personality disorder" the media talk about when describing serial killers and psychopaths.

I guess your personality changes in order for you to get what you want in the current situation.

L.Jenkins

Jamari Nervous Clip wrote: »

I think that is pretty normal for humans to react that way. Change your personality to suit the scenario.

It's not necessarily changing your personality. It's mainly how you condition yourself to react to a situation and the front up put on to suss someone or something out, before they know the real you. Everyone does it all the time.

Deus Ex Machina

BBDBB wrote: »

I think I know what you mean Deus,

I had to develop a different "personality" at work for a job I used to do, it was a fairly senior position in a big company. At first it was about survival, being managed in a very tough way, I had to toughen up and take criticism less to heart. I found I developed a different "personality" for work, much more assertive and dominant and a lot less caring. Ultimately one of the reasons I decided to leave was because I didnt like the person I had become, ie that work "personality" started to become me at home with my family and I didnt like who that person was.

Yes that is what I am getting at alright. I have groups of friends who don't know each other at all and are quite different from each other. The way I appear is very different between these groups. I don't like being this way, and I am not sure how it came about, I didn't make a conscious decision to act in a particular way around one group, and then completely differently with another, it just developed by itself and I'll be damned if I can change it now.

BBDBB

Deus Ex Machina wrote: »

Yes that is what I am getting at alright. I have groups of friends who don't know each other at all and are quite different from each other. The way I appear is very different between these groups. I don't like being this way, and I am not sure how it came about, I didn't make a conscious decision to act in a particular way around one group, and then completely differently with another, it just developed by itself and I'll be damned if I can change it now.

why is it a problem to be different with different people? in itself I had no issue with that, still dont, Im now self employed and much happier, Im very different with friends and family than I am with clients.

which bits do you want to change and why?

orourkeda

Corkfeen wrote: »

I act like a smarmy and cynical Bastard to people I don't actually like.... Then to friends I act like a vulgar sexist pig. But around people I really like I seem like a saint. :eek: Probably another 30 different versions of my personality though. Its not any form of an act, I assume its just comfort levels more than anything.

Thats cork people for you.

RolandIRL

i'd say i've got about, maybe 10 altogether.
my boardsie personality , 3/4 personalities for each of my brothers and parents, a good few for friends, and another one for acting the bollocks to annoying people

i'm mostly the same person, just acting differently around people. i'm nowhere near as bad as Jim Carrey in me, myself and irene.

Hank_Jones

I would think that I probably used to have a few personalities.
Now I find that as I get older I probably just have one, little bit of a smarmy fcuker he is as well.

I suppose as I got older I just began to act like myself and if people don't like that, tough shit.
They can kiss my shiny metal etc etc.

Professey Chin

I dunno.Ask him -->>.........................hello!

karlog

I have three personality's one before, during and after drinking.

sheesh

yeah op I know what you mean

there is professional Sheesh he appears very focused motivated and cares about what he's doing (note appears)

there is 'out with friends' sheesh who sits happily in the corner with a pint.

and there is looking for directions Sheesh who appears (i hope) likeable and middleclass.

there are a couple more variations on those most of them seem to focus on appearing non threatening and likeable, Which I think is an irish thing.

often the persona can depend on the situation and/or the energy level confidence and a few other factors.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

djhunter30 wrote: »

It's not necessarily changing your personality. It's mainly how you condition yourself to react to a situation and the front up put on to suss someone or something out, before they know the real you. Everyone does it all the time.

My understanding of a personality is as follows:

The organized pattern of behaviors and attitudes that makes a human being distinctive. Personality is formed by the ongoing interaction of temperament, character, and environment.

Basically how you behave from one scenario to another.

3hn2givr7mx1sc

I have at least 4 different personas and ways of acting.

Around parents and relatives(all 10+ years older) I'm reserved about what I say, not quiet but I don't swear and stuff.

Around my original friends(friends I grew up with in primary school) I'm a 'lad', not going around wrecking stuff and that but like swearing like a sailor and just all around messing and talking about random shít(especially when drunk or stoned:P).

Around my 'new' friends(moved to a different part of Laois, different secondary to all my other friends) I'm just a bit different, they aren't as dirty as the other lads like with the things we'd joke about and that.

Then I'm as shy as a sheep around strangers/people I don't know very well.:o

Corkfeen

orourkeda wrote: »

Thats cork people for you.

I thought all men are ultimately sexist vulgar pigs, I take offense.:D Might be right about cork though, also have a superiority complex and refuse point blank to visiting saipan........:eek:

Kasabian

One personality , a good one , seems to do the trick

Andrew33

I'm not sure its right to call it multiple personalities,
Man is a "pack animal" just like most other animals,
so we behave in different ways towards others depending on whether we think that "other" is above or below "our" station in life.
Look at dogs for example, they might be dog number 2 at home (with human owner being 1st dog) but when they get amongst their own they will scrabble for 1st position or become submissive and settle for 2nd,3rd,4th when challenged. You can learn an awful lot about humans by looking at other animals behavior cos thats all we are.

Deus Ex Machina

BBDBB wrote: »

why is it a problem to be different with different people? in itself I had no issue with that, still dont, Im now self employed and much happier, Im very different with friends and family than I am with clients.

which bits do you want to change and why?

I guess I would like it if I could just act as I would without any consideration for my situation and let people think of me what they will. There is something about having your personality dictated by the situation which seems weak to me on some level. I suppose I weigh up making the impression I want to make and acting how I want to act.

starbelgrade

I like a woman with a nice pair of senalities.

Einhard

According to statistics, three in every one Irish people have split personalities...

starbelgrade

I have a split personality.

And so do I.

BBDBB

Deus Ex Machina wrote: »

I guess I would like it if I could just act as I would without any consideration for my situation and let people think of me what they will. There is something about having your personality dictated by the situation which seems weak to me on some level. I suppose I weigh up making the impression I want to make and acting how I want to act.

there is that element in all of us, that would like to believe that we can do and say what we want, pleasing ourselves and that others will have to take us as they find us.

The truth is, that we have some very strong drivers of our behaviour that do influence us to behave in accordance with socially expected standards of behaviour in certain situations. To some extent you cant help that as we are sociable creatures in the main and like to be liked and approved of by key people in our lives, so we will behave in ways that mean we fit in with their expectations, sometimes without realising it

Voluptas

I prefer to see being able to adapt to different situations and communicate with all sorts of people on different levels as a sign of strength and part and parcel of what makes me,me. I think it's a positive attribute to have and can be a really useful aid in day to day life.:D

Asphyxia

I just have the one, I don't act differently infront of anyone! I'm blunt, sarcastic and easy going, If people don't like it I'm not going to go change for them, it is ridiculous. I like me the way I am and I don't have to hide behind loads of personalities to get on with anyone, frankly I think it's silly when people do. :rolleyes:

BBDBB

Pocketfizz wrote: »

I just have the one, I don't act differently infront of anyone! I'm blunt, sarcastic and easy going, If people don't like it I'm not going to go change for them, it is ridiculous. I like me the way I am and I don't have to hide behind loads of personalities to get on with anyone, frankly I think it's silly when people do. :rolleyes:

you probably wont even notice, let alone be able to determine if its silly or not

FunnyStuff

Just me:D......me:mad:........ and me:cool:

Asphyxia

BBDBB wrote: »

you probably wont even notice, let alone be able to determine if its silly or not

Two of my friends that I've known for over 6 years do it, they act themselves infront of me but the minute they are in different company such as a guy they fancy or a girl they don't like they change. I have said it to them before and they like doing it because they think it either makes them come across tougher or sexier which to me is silly because I love them the way they are and I know other people would aswell if they showed their personalities more.