The Power of Love/Stupidity

Bottle_of_Smoke

Hey guys, what's the stupidest thing you've ever done over/for a relationship?

I was once seeing a girl who was a vegetarian. Soonafter I stopped eating meat. I kind of convinced myself it was for logical reasons but really it was just to impress her.

I'm sure there's other little things, like pretending to other girls to like the Irish language whilst chatting them up but the veggie thing was prob the most ridiculous.

LD 50

Gotten married

entropi

I dont do stupid little things like that, if a woman cannot take me for who I am then she is not worth my time. Period.

Novella

I dunno if this is just in my head but I think a lot of people say, "Nah, I'd never change etc." for the person they love but more often that not, people do. Loving someone does change things. It does change you and whether it's a change you're conscious of, or one of those things that happens gradually over time, imo, you can bet your ass you won't be the same afterwards.

I don't like football, or is it called soccer? I don't know, and I don't care. I had a boyfriend once though who really loved Man United and because he watched CSI with me, I watched matches with him. I could name the whole team. Watching football (soccer?) became part of my (well, our) routine and I think I even had myself convinced that I enjoyed it.

When you love someone, I think you do things, say things, like things that you never would have done, said or liked before and that's okay. It's not stupidity, it's the give and take that make you both fit.

Herbal Deity

@Novella: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Synonym

Everyone does things that makes them happy/gives them pleasure. That's basic biology.

When you're in love, your partner being happy induces happiness in you.

So if you make them happy, then it makes you happy.

To use Novella's example, watching football alone might not do anything for you, but if a partner liked it, then you'd recognise what in a football match induced enjoyment/happiness in them, and by extension you'd begin to get enjoyment/happiness out of the fact that they were enjoying themselves.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Less discussion and more embarrassing stories!

force majeure

sending a bunch off very costly roses to a woman at work and promptly getting pissed out off my face then turning up at lunch hour.... no need to say the rest but suffice to say it did not work.
PS roses do't work guys unless she is expecting them.

Nervous Wreck

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote: »

Hey guys, what's the stupidest thing you've ever done over/for a relationship?

Cried.

/facepalm

TitoPuente

Got involved with a textbook narcissist without knowing what was happening and came out the other end thinking I was going insane. Lesson learned.