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XBubbliBunniX

hi all, really dont why im writing this but i need help with a situation that none of my friends seem to understand......

It all started during college last year, met a lovely guy through friends, got on like a house on fire from the beginning, texted, dated the usual u know how these things go....fell for him hard thinkin that he felt the same....then out of the blue one day i recieved a text telling me he thought that we were two very different people and would be better off as friends, initally to say that i was hurt and shocked would have been an understatement. I spent the summer tryin to get over this guy..hooking up with other guys to try and distract myself and heal some of the pain he caused me. The way I saw it was if i could be with somebody else without thinking of him then i would be fine.

This mentality got me throught the summer anyway until college began again and I was back to square one, the first night I moved back I was out and so was he, it was only then i realised that i hadnt gotten over him at all and care more about him than ever, this is when the dynamics of our relationship or whatever u want to call it changed...from that night to this day it has been purely physical, there has alway been an attraction between us even when we fought that spark or wanting never went out.

To get to the point now, my problem I deeply care about this person and I know he does not view me in the same way, i have asked him and he seems to like the term " friends with benefits". Our encounters seem to happen when he texts or if we are out together with our college group we always end up back at his, i know this is a vicious cycle which i need to break but i dont no how, he seems to have a hold over me, where its what he wants i give him, with no regard for my emotions even tho he knows how i feel

any help would be greatly appricated!!

LegacyUser

Please please get out of this. He is using you plain and square. He knows you care about him and he is obviously not mature enough/ not decent enough to consider your feelings and is just thinking of his d**k. I got myyself into a similar situation in college a few years ago and I regret it every day that I didnt take control of the situation. (he just started blanking and ignoring me at the very end). I went through all the fellas to try and get over him which made me even more miserable.
if you try and break away, he might love the chase and will try and get you back to where he wants you. I think you should just tell him next time he contacts that you're finished with all this sh*t and then leave it at that. erase the number.. make sure your friends tow you back at the end of a nite out etc... Thats my two cents anyway

seenitall

"he seems to have a hold over me" The essence of your problem - your victim mentality.

Take some responsibility for your actions, OP, I promise you it will feel great! (Besides, you don't seem to have much choice but to do that, unless you want to wait around until he ends your little f-buddy arrangement for a hotter model.)

Sorry, but when it comes to kicking a heartless user to the kerb, it's all down to you.

Good luck with it!

LegacyUser

seenitall wrote: »

"he seems to have a hold over me" The essence of your problem - your victim mentality.

Take some responsibility for your actions, OP, I promise you it will feel great! (Besides, you don't seem to have much choice but to do that, unless you want to wait around until he ends your little f-buddy arrangement for a hotter model.)

Sorry, but when it comes to kicking a heartless user to the kerb, it's all down to you.

Good luck with it!

+1

Also OP you are seriously damaging your reputation. This guy has no interest in you. He just clicks his finger whenever he's drunk or wants a quick fix. And you just come running. Anybody who knows the situation will think of you as cheap, easy and a fool. You need to stop.