Celebrate loved one's lives now?

nicegirl

On the mark of the sad death of Gerry Ryan, and everyone's loved ones....why not pay tribute here to people who are currently alive, and express how much they are valued, loved, and respected before they pass away? My mum and dad are incrediable, and I would not be where I am today without them. I am also so blessed to have so many incrediable friends. Love them so much. What would you say to your friends and family here, before they die?

Dennis the Stone

I was thinking about this today, and it struck me how both my parents are Gerry Ryan's age, or slightly older. So when I thought of it that way it was a bit of a shock to think of what his children are feeling at the moment.

flanum

I try to make a point of going for a pint with my dad every week or so.. he's 70 this year but still thinks he's 30..... and i try to call down to see my parents every day (i live not too far from them) even if its only for 5 minutes before i go to work (shift work)..... yep love them to bits... been working all week fixing up a boat with me dad so hopefully we get to launch it this weekend... good times!!

Mr. Incognito

My Dad died two years ago, cancer, we had a few beers in the months leading up to it. Makes you appreciate your remaining parent.

How many people are going to read this thread, and text their parents

Sharpshooter

Ageispolis wrote: »

I was thinking about this today, and it struck me how both my parents are Gerry Ryan's age, or slightly older. So when I thought of it that way it was a bit of a shock to think of what his children are feeling at the moment.

I'd say they are devastated to have lost a father who made sure he counted in their lives.

His death will have hit them very hard and I'm sure the genuine posters of AHs send their best to them and his wife Morah in what must be a very shattering time.

nicegirl

Thanks for the replies so far What are the things that you would miss the most about your parents, brothers, sisters, friends, etc? My dad and I are very close, and I would miss him an unbelievable amount if anything were to suddenly happen. He means the world to me. I would miss his "ways" his presence, his opinions, and his non stop help, advice and love. The same would apply to my mum, and my sisters. As for my friends, they are my family in Dublin, and if anything were to happen to them it would devestate me. They know so much about me, and vice versa. They make up a huge part of my life, and don't know whatI would do if anything were to happen to any of them. I am so glad that they are all alive and well, and I love them all so much, and that they are around in my life

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

Disowned my dad and my mother is constantly busy. Brother is in OZ at the moment and the other one is always busy. Sister has kids and married, running her own business. You think it would be easy to make time, but it's always "I don't have the time, sorry bro". Very close to my mother, brothers and sister, or at least I would like to think so. It would kill me if anything happened to them. I have a phobia of my bro in oz dying and never talking to him again. Poxy feeling

nicegirl

Cody Weak Washbowl wrote: »

Disowned my dad and my mother is constantly busy. Brother is in OZ at the moment and the other one is always busy. Sister has kids and married, running her own business. You think it would be easy to make time, but it's always "I don't have the time, sorry bro". Very close to my mother, brothers and sister, or at least I would like to think so. It would kill me if anything happened to them. I have a phobia of my bro in oz dying and never talking to him again. Poxy feeling

If anything happened to your dad, you would be upset?! He is your dad, and no matter what, parents always worry and love us no matter what. Maybe make it up with your dad before its too late? It is of course not my business, but you never know what tomorrow brings as we all learned today

flanum

Cody Weak Washbowl wrote: »

I have a phobia of my bro in oz dying and never talking to him again. Poxy feeling

try to set up the auld skypey thing... even if its just for a once a month sunday evenin 5 minute video chat!

artanevilla

nicegirl wrote: »

On the mark of the sad death of Gerry Ryan, and everyone's loved ones....

ALL MY LOVED ONES ARE DEAD!?!?!?!?!?! :eek:

That_Guy

I wanna try head for a pint at least once a fortnight with my dad. Generally watch the football with him when it's on. He's a Leeds supporter so it's kinda funny to rip out of him once in a while.

I try to spend time with my mam but we've not got a whole lot in common and we always just have a big row over nothing sometimes.

As for my sister, I don't get to do much with her as she's always with her boyfriend.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

nicegirl wrote: »

If anything happened to your dad, you would be upset?! He is your dad, and no matter what, parents always worry and love us no matter what. Maybe make it up with your dad before its too late? It is of course not my business, but you never know what tomorrow brings as we all learned today

Hmm.. it's not so simple. Tried many times to reestablish some kind of a relationship, but it's like trying to draw blood from a turnip. Would I be upset? Not sure to be honest, more than likely I would be.

flanum wrote: »

try to set up the auld skypey thing... even if its just for a once a month sunday evenin 5 minute video chat!

Oh I am the technical one, he has facebook, a gmail account and bebo and I doubt he has ever even logged into them :P Ah I talk to him every few months.

nicegirl

My mother and I do not always see eye to eye, but we always make up. I always feel bad if we fall out, and it hurts. It hurts because she is my mum, and we all only have one mother, so I always make up with her. Parents and children may not always see eye to eye, but I think to let them know how much they are appreciated, and respected in our day to day lives that will make the difference. Petty arguments should be sorted out, and forgotten.

Sharpshooter

nicegirl wrote: »

Thanks for the replies so far What are the things that you would miss the most about your parents.

My mam was someone who didn't choose her words very carefully.

Her brother moved to Canada and she told everyone in earshot in the pub that he had moved to a nice Condom in a nice area.

I had to explain the difference between..well you get my drift.

nicegirl wrote: »

My dad and I are very close, and I would miss him an unbelievable amount if anything were to suddenly happen. He means the world to me. I would miss his "ways" his presence, his opinions, and his non stop help, advice and love.

I agree with this, as he is the only parent I have left, and I make his meals everyday and cut his hair when needs be, he makes my life sweet because he is still here for me to see, and as long as he is then so is Mam.

Just silly stuff he says about her that has me laughing instead of crying.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

I am jealous and envious of ye to tell you the truth...

Diairist

have you the seen the clear, bright, beautiful dawn outside the window? Another one not spent in a hospital? You didn't spend the last half hour looking down at a sick child or a deceased parent? Look at the magnificent sky and remember the beautiful page of promises above.

nicegirl

Diairist wrote: »

have you the seen the clear, bright, beautiful dawn outside the window? Another one not spent in a hospital? You didn't spend the last half hour looking down at a sick child or a deceased parent? Look at the magnificent sky and remember the beautiful page of promises above.

I'm still here! I can't sleep, but am happy reading the posts. Have you an ill member of your family in hospital? Yes it is a lovely morning, and a nice new day. With what happened to Gerry Ryan yesterday, I think it should be a wake up call to us all with regards to how much we love our family, friends, and relatives, and you never know whats around the corner, and its all too late.

littlefriend

Just read this. Good thread, very nice start to the day. Thanks op

Jaxxy

Strangely enough in one of my posts yesterday I implored people to tell the family members/friends they love that they love them. My Grandda passed away yesterday morning and with everything going on in my life at the moment I suddenly thought of how important it is for me to let my family know that I love them.

Every family has their differences and their fights. Mine is no exception. I love my parents with all my heart though, and if anything were to happen to them I'm not sure how I'd cope. I mostly get along well with them; my Da and I are fairly similar in temperament and share a lot of similar interests. We have a couple of beers and watch the football and chat easily about what's going on in our lives. My mother is basically my best mate I think. We fight fairly frequently and butt heads more so than I would with the Da, but I know I can tell her anything and that both of them only want me to be happy. They would do anything for me and I would do anything for them.

About two years ago my Da was very sick and I thought I was going to lose him. I live in constant fear that he's on borrowed time and even though he's still quite young (48) I'm afraid that I won't have as long with him as I had always assumed I would.

It's not always easy to get along with your parents, but cherish them while you still can, if you can.

Jaysus this is a very morbid/emo thread for AH!

mikom

nicegirl wrote: »

What would you say to your friends and family here, before they die?

Mom, Pop, I posted about how I loved you so much on an anonymous internet forum.
Here is a print out of the page as proof.
Oh.... and here's the link if you want to thank it.

Daisy Steiner

This is a great thread. Too often we leave all those positive emotions up in the ether. I have a horror of death in my family. I lost a young cousin to a brain aneurysm (sudden) and my godfather to throat cancer (long, slow and painful)

Every few days (no exaggeration) I well up thinking about something happening to a member of my family, especially my dad. Part of me thinks that I'm preparing myself for the worst but for all I know I might be gone long before them.

I'm careful to see them and show them through little things that they are my world. I may not always be perfect but I believe in the power of love and I know too well the aching regrets that death brings.

So for what it's worth here in internet land. I love you mam and dad, brothers p and j, sister a and biglove to nephews s and c. You are all the best part of me. x x x.

L.Jenkins

After reading this thread, I just realised that with all thats going on in my life, I don't appriciate my parents enough.

+1 to OP

flanum

There is a story or poem?? i remember reading years ago.. the author was on about when he grew up on a farm and when he was a child he used to be following his dad ... literally having to take jumps to land in every welly mudded deep footstep his dad left imprinted.. tryin to keep up with his dad... and then he goes on to lament that now his dad is old and slow, and he (the son) is now walking ahead of his dad and his father is struggling to keep up with him across the fields and being a bit of a hindrance..(just like he was a bit of a hindrance to his dad when he was a child..)..

if anybody knows this prayer/poem/ode/sonnet/play etc (whatever it is)... id love to get a hold of it again!

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http://www.funmunch.com/funpages/inspirational/apple_tree/

starbelgrade

I understand the sentiment of this thread, but it doesn't take the death of a radio presenter for me to appreciate those close to me.

flanum

i understand what yer saying.. but not everyone has a tight knit family etc, and not everyone has had a close death etc,, maybe to some people, the radio and the television are actually "family"!
there are lonely people out there *starbelgrade* and sure let people mourn... itd be worse if nobody gave a fcuk about anybody!!

starbelgrade

flanum wrote: »

i understand what yer saying.. but not everyone has a tight knit family etc, and not everyone has had a close death etc,, maybe to some people, the radio and the television are actually "family"!
there are lonely people out there *starbelgrade* and sure let people mourn... itd be worse if nobody gave a fcuk about anybody!!

You have a point there.