Is this normal behaviour?

rebelle

Hi,

Hopefully this will be short and to the point....I'm 38 yo and have been seeing a 50 yo for the last 6 months, so we're not spring chickens! We didn't have a fight or anything but he has decided to stop all communication for over a week. I've tried to text him a few times, I've given up now! I presume he wants to break up but just wants to avoid having to tell me. Is this pathetic behaviour from someone his age and after 6 months? I'd like to hear what ye think, a male perspective would be great!

Denimgirl

Did you see it coming? 6 months is a bit long to go out with someone to just ignore them 1 or 2 weeks maybe!! Your reckon he's OK?If he has just ignored you like this it's bad form. I've come to the conclusion that all Men are weird,they seem to like woman who play hard to get and walk over woman who are genuine to them.Your only 38 you have youth on your side.you don't need this nonesense in your life.

whatsamsn

Suddenly just to stop all contact with no reason why shows his true colours.
I wouldnt be suprised if you get the cliche 'phone was lost sorry about that' Or the ever classic out of credit.

I say move on from him. Dont even contact him even if he evidentually contacts you.

Busi_Girl08

As an above poster said, are you sure he's ok?

He might not be contacting you because he might not be able to. If there's no sign of him then it might be a cause for concern

Do you know anyone in his family?

rebelle

Hey, thanks for all the replies, really appreciated! He’s definitely ok, i did wonder that earlier in the week but i’ve found out that he’s been working all week. I had texted him up to Monday and the texts did deliver. If he had lost his phone, he should have let me know.


So, i hadn’t seen anything coming and Denimgirl i think what you wrote is so true, i’ve been way too honest with him, i should have played it much cooler.

I still think i deserve an explanation but god only knows what he’s thinking!! I'm not going to contact him anymore, it's a big effort though to restrain myself from telling him what i think of him.

Thanks again for the replies

sam34

i'd presume that hes a bit old /mature to be doing the dropping-out-of-contact-and-hoping-she-gets-the-message-thing

try check with family/friends that he's ok

sam34

Op i posted the above while you were posting your last post

sorry to hear that but one way to look at it is that you dodged a bullet

anyone who thinks thats acceptable behaviour is not worth a thought

rebelle

sam34 wrote: »

i'd presume that hes a bit old /mature to be doing the dropping-out-of-contact-and-hoping-she-gets-the-message-thing

try check with family/friends that he's ok

Hey, as you said our posts crossed, you're right though, he should be more mature, it's pathetic behaviour from someone especially of his age.

Chinafoot

Can I ask why you haven't phoned him or called over to his house to find out whats going? Why are you just texting him?

LucyGossip

Yes you do deserve an explanation and I can understand tha tyou want to tell him what you think of him. And in my honest oppinion it does sound like he has lost interest or something like that. BUT, be careful! You don't want to come off as the crazy girlfriend givingout to him. He MIGHT have a good explanation (although I don't know how likely it is)

Firetrap

It does sound like he's decided to finish things with you but doesn't have the guts to say it to your face. Unless he's in an intensive care unit somewhere, there is no reason why he wouldn't be making contact with you. Age is no barrier to immaturity :rolleyes:

rebelle

Chinafoot wrote: »

Can I ask why you haven't phoned him or called over to his house to find out whats going? Why are you just texting him?

I did try to phone him at the start but coward that he is he didn't answer the phone. I did think about going to his house but like another poster said i don't want to come across as the crazy girlfriend.

Even though i would like an explanation, i don't think i have anything to gain now from seeing him. I have to accept that it's over and move on.

Stupid me i sent him a text last nite, it was a bit sarky, i didn't get a reply. Im not going to text him again or i will def be considered crazy or he'll want to change his number!

LegacyUser

A friend of mine used to use that "technique" to split up with women.

I couldn;t do that to anyone. I always end it in person if I can.

Hard to do but respectful.

How Strange

Completely disgraceful behaviour from a man of his age or a person of any age for that matter.

OP, cut contact completely. I'm sure the wimp will try to contact you at some stage with a tall tale of some sort (they always do, even 2 years later!)but don't even listen to it.