Ugh whats happening.

SmellyBumFace

Hi folks, before i start, can i just not have any replies from people who want to talk about how bad it is to do anything with someone who is in a relationship? it happens all the time and it always will happen.

Ok to start, quite a while ago i saw this girl i really liked, saw her a few times and eventually went up to her one night and introduced myself, i found out after that shed really liked me before that happened and she was on the phone to her friend going oh my god guess who just came up to me! etc.

i know where she works so i did a couple of nice surprises for her and got her number and we were texting away, we went for a drink and had a great time. I did know from talking to her friend that she had a boyfriend of 3 years but she herself never mentioned him.

things have been going really well lately, she comes over for coffee sometimes and we went out again the other night. we had a brilliant night (double date)
we went back to mine and we did some stuff :P everything but, if you know what i mean. I went to the bathroom and she found a huge amount of calls from her boyfriend on the phone, who she kind of lives with. he was going nuts so she went home.

he broke up with her over it and she went to stay in her sisters the other day, she hasnt replied to the 2 messages i sent her since. (this all happened tuesday night btw

her friend says this is a good thing for me, and she text her a couple of times. she text her this morning saying she cant face talking to anyone, and shes not gone to work the past 2 mornings.

her friend came into me yesterday for a chat and she was saying that this girl was telling her she really liked being with me, and we got on so well and had such a laugh which her and her bf never did. and then all this happened.

can i have your honest opinion of where i stand?

and again, please i dont want any trolling about i shouldn't have done anything with her due to the bf etc, i kinda of only realised how serious they were recently.

thanks

LegacyUser

SmellyBumFace wrote: »

her friend says this is a good thing for me, and she text her a couple of times. she text her this morning saying she cant face talking to anyone, and shes not gone to work the past 2 mornings.

her friend came into me yesterday for a chat and she was saying that this girl was telling her she really liked being with me, and we got on so well and had such a laugh which her and her bf never did. and then all this happened.

can i have your honest opinion of where i stand?

and again, please i dont want any trolling about i shouldn't have done anything with her due to the bf etc, i kinda of only realised how serious they were recently.

thanks

My opinion is that she feels very guilty for what she did to her ex-boyfriend (she text her this morning saying she can't face talking to anyone) and is only starting to realise just now what exactly she did to her ex boyfriend and that she just threw away a three year relationship for someone whom she has only known for a while.

Three years is a long time. If something wasn't working out I would imagine one of them would call it quits. Since they didn't I presume they were/are still in love with each other and those feelings aren't gone in three days, if they broke up tuesday. I know you want to trolling but you knew she had a boyfriend of three years yet you didn't realise how serious they were? I find that hard if not impossible to believe....Three years, use your brain.

Anyway back to you and the girl who seems to have no problem cheating on her ex boyfriend, considering she was at your place doing everything except having sex with you and meeting up with you behind her boyfriends back. I'd leave her for a while. The whole thing may have been fun and exciting for her when her boyfriend had no clue, but now that he found out and dumped her over it, she's most likely regretting it. Again, you can't just erase a three year relationship from your heart and mind. She needs to sort out herself, her feelings and what she wants. If I were you I'd go for someone who treats relationships with a bit more respect, and you might want to start doing that yourself too......

Des Carter

Sounds to me like shes a drama queen I mean if she cared for her boyfriend that much she wouldnt have cheated on him plain and simple.

As for you just give her time and see does she get over the breakup and then just take it from there.

amybabes

sounds like she hasn't made up her mind about who she wants, was having her cake and eating it......
she's afraid to leave behind what she knows is dependable to venture into the unknown with you.

Why is the friend sticking their nose in though?? she's either stirring ****/telling you stuff she shouldn't be........or else they've planned what is to be said to you by the friend between the 2 of them to keep you sweet.
Either way, the whole "my friend likes you" thing is a bit childish.......:rolleyes: Shouldn't any communication about it be between you and this girl, not here interfering friend?

Do you really want to be with someone who you met while she was cheating on her then bf? Once a cheater......

GOOD LUCK OP