how long does it take for a guy to call/text

showgirl

Okay here goes - I met a guy out on Friday night – he came back to mine – we had great fun and got on really well. I dropped him home on Saturday afternoon and he took my phone number. Now he hasn’t called but he was more or less adamant that he would. When I was outside the nightclub on Friday night I thought I heard his friend saying “seriously man what are you doing” ( now I could be wrong but that’s what thought – I could well have been paranoid) Anyway now I am afraid that even after the brilliant night we had together that his friend might have talked him around texting me!

How long should a girl wait for a text! 3days? I would be used to guys texting that night saying they had a good night!

Am I just fretting out for no reason or do you think that cause I slept with him that he now doesn’t want anything to do with me!

I just want to reiterate we got on so well and spent all morning telling stories and laughing! It felt so comfortable and I for the first time in my life I can say that I have met someone that I would love to spend more time with! Usually guys aren’t funny enough for me but this guy was perfect!

LegacyUser

To be honest OP, if you heard what you think you heard then kinda sounds like he has a girlfriend and his mates were basically telling him to cop on.

LegacyUser

showgirl wrote: »

Okay here goes - I met a guy out on Friday night – he came back to mine – we had great fun and got on really well. I dropped him home on Saturday afternoon and he took my phone number. Now he hasn’t called but he was more or less adamant that he would. When I was outside the nightclub on Friday night I thought I heard his friend saying “seriously man what are you doing” ( now I could be wrong but that’s what thought – I could well have been paranoid) Anyway now I am afraid that even after the brilliant night we had together that his friend might have talked him around texting me!

How long should a girl wait for a text! 3days? I would be used to guys texting that night saying they had a good night!

Am I just fretting out for no reason or do you think that cause I slept with him that he now doesn’t want anything to do with me!

I just want to reiterate we got on so well and spent all morning telling stories and laughing! It felt so comfortable and I for the first time in my life I can say that I have met someone that I would love to spend more time with! Usually guys aren’t funny enough for me but this guy was perfect!

I can't believe woman still fall for this. A huge amount of lads go out at the weekend just looking to get laid. Doesn't matter how well you got on or what connection you had. They want an easy ride.
You did nothing wrong, his mates didn't talk him out of texting you. He had no idea of ever seeing you again.

Miss Fluff

+1, I interpreted what his friend says as him already having a girlfriend/being attached and they were having a go at him for cheating.

In answer to your question, no hard and fast rules. Some will text the next day, others might leave it until nearer the weekend again, Wed or Thursday.

I'd be concerned that his mates were trying to stop him though.

mollymascara

showgirl wrote: »

Okay here goes - I met a guy out on Friday night – he came back to mine – we had great fun and got on really well. I dropped him home on Saturday afternoon and he took my phone number. Now he hasn’t called but he was more or less adamant that he would. When I was outside the nightclub on Friday night I thought I heard his friend saying “seriously man what are you doing” ( now I could be wrong but that’s what thought – I could well have been paranoid) Anyway now I am afraid that even after the brilliant night we had together that his friend might have talked him around texting me!

How long should a girl wait for a text! 3days? I would be used to guys texting that night saying they had a good night!

Am I just fretting out for no reason or do you think that cause I slept with him that he now doesn’t want anything to do with me!

I just want to reiterate we got on so well and spent all morning telling stories and laughing! It felt so comfortable and I for the first time in my life I can say that I have met someone that I would love to spend more time with! Usually guys aren’t funny enough for me but this guy was perfect!

Hey
There are many reasons why he may not have txt, what I will say is dont drive yourself crazy doing all of his thinking because there is no way of knowing what he may or may not be thinking.
Unfortunately these situations are a waiting game, personally, if I didnt hear anything within a few days, I wouldnt hold my breath that it was anything more than a once off thing.

I do however agree with the other posts regarding the friends comment, chances are he is seeing some one already

LegacyUser

I would interpret the friends comments, based on how males behave when out on the pull, "seriously man, what are you doing" ie she's a minger

BobbyOLeary

dfgdfgdfgd wrote: »

I would interpret the friends comments, based on how males behave when out on the pull, "seriously man, what are you doing" ie she's a minger

On the money here. OP, why don't you call him?

LegacyUser

dfgdfgdfgd wrote: »

I would interpret the friends comments, based on how males behave when out on the pull, "seriously man, what are you doing" ie she's a minger

Oh dear! Pretending to be helpful with a large side order of plain nastiness

I'd go with he's got a girlfriend already. If he doesn't ring, it's got nothing to do with his friends, it just means he doesn't want to ring. Move on

Lucyx

ah OP your innocence.

he may have had those great nites and great laughs and great mornings telling stories with many other girls too. you feel like you two made a great connection but he may not feel the same.

try not to think about it all too much. i think the friends comment could have been anything really. he may still contact you in the next few days but i do believe the one night stand thing only works out about 2% of the time.

Cheap Thrills!

unregisted wrote: »

Oh dear! Pretending to be helpful with a large side order of plain nastiness

I'd go with he's got a girlfriend already. If he doesn't ring, it's got nothing to do with his friends, it just means he doesn't want to ring. Move on

+1

Anyway, I also think its the girlfriend already thing alright.

Kasabian

dfgdfgdfgd wrote: »

I would interpret the friends comments, based on how males behave when out on the pull, "seriously man, what are you doing" ie she's a minger

I don't usually post advise , but heres some for you , try and be a bit more considerate of people's feelings before you decide to be so cutting.:mad:

showgirl

oh God i feel terrible after reading all the posts - of which i must thank you all for your responses. Im not going to dwell on it too much anyway cause ill drive myself into an early grave! i just cannot believe that guys act like that! anyway i suppose it will happen for me at some stage.

he did Joke about how he was going to play the game and leave me hanging for 3 - 5 days but i so thought he was joking!! must have been serious!! ill hang it out til wed and then write him off!

for the poster taht said to ring him - i dont have his number! i left the ball in his court - and im glad i dont have his number because i would prob come across as some psycho by texting him!!

showgirl

lonad wrote: »

I don't usually post advise , but heres some for you , try and be a bit more considerate of people's feelings before you decide to be so cutting.:mad:

Thank you Ionad - and im not a minger ( well i dont think that i am) im pretty and i get told so all the time!!

Kasabian

showgirl wrote: »

Thank you Ionad - and im not a minger ( well i dont think that i am) im pretty and i get told so all the time!!

Your welcome , I can't stand such rudeness.

I am sure you are very pretty . Good luck with whatever the outcome is with this situation , just remember there are alot of guys out there that will tell you what you want to hear to get what they want.