No sex drive... help

sarahere

Hi everyone, looking for some advice,
Im a lady in my 20's have gorgous 3 yr old son and a great boyf who if been with for 6 yrs. In the last yr i have no sex drive what so ever my poor man is lucky to get it once a month, its really frustrating because i feel bad and its starting to cause problems between us, he hasnt said anything but i know its bothering him i just dont know what it is we always had a really good sex life, i came off the pill yasmin a month ago as i thought maybe this was affecting me but no joy im afraid.. whats wrong with me???:mad:

Goldenquick

Why not go to your GP and get a full medical. It could be caused by an underlying health problem.

sarahere

suppose ive been puttin it off hopin it will get better

Miss Fluff

How frequently do you masturbate?

S23

Miss Fluff wrote: »

How frequently do you masturbate?

:eek:

Just kidding. Just looks a bit shocking on its own but in the right context it is relevant, or should I say could be relevant, to your sex drive or lack of one.

I'd advise going to your GP and getting it checked out.

sarahere

I dont at all, cant remember last time i did :eek: didnt even think of that must be over a yr the last time, thats bad isnt it

Ickle Magoo

I think you should have a chat to your dr and let them know you aren't happy with the status quo and find out if there is anything medically behind the drop in sex-drive.

Have a chat to your man as well and let him know you aren't happy with things the way they are and you want to do something about it. If he doesn't already, make sure he knows it isn't meant as a rejection of him.

Do you have a baby-sitter? Would some romantic time together just the two of you rekindle anything? Is there anything else going on that's causing you to feel less attractive or want less intimacy?

Best of luck.

Miss Fluff

sarahere wrote: »

I dont at all, cant remember last time i did :eek: didnt even think of that must be over a yr the last time, thats bad isnt it

I asked so as to establish how often you orgasm/are stimulated. So basically very little. It sounds easier said than done but the more often you are sexually stimulated the more you want it. Do you get time to yourself? If your kid is at creche could you set aside a bit of "me" time for yourself, by that I mean get yourself off? If you do you will find you want sex more often too. I think libido can be likened to a car engine in a really fast powerful car. If it's not oiled and revved up and prepared for action regularly it's hard to get it going on all guns blazing if it's only once in a blue moon.:)Sh1t analogy but I've had a glass of wine. Essentially what I'm saying is, take the time to rediscover your own sexuality first and the rest should follow naturally.

shellyboo

How long were you on Yasmin? It could take up to 6 months for your body to return to normal after coming off the pill; inlcuding your libido.