Confused about Girl

LegacyUser

Hey Guys,

I have started to get on very well with a girl from work but because of knock backs in the past, I am too scared to ask her out. Basically, we have started texting alot outside work, usually every day.. some of the texts can be a little flirty but nothing more. We are both single and joke around alot.. My problem is, I dont know whether this is just friendly banter or something more!! Are there any tell-tale signs??! We work different shifts and she asks me sometimes to come into the office to have lunch with her, from a ladies perspective, would you text a male colleague outside working hours? Btw, she also suggested a few of us go out next week but again that could be just being friendly!! Sorry if this is a silly thread but dont have alot of experience or confidence!!!

Thanks

LegacyUser

If I was 'texting a male colleague' outside of work more than anyone else in the office, it probably would mean I was interested in him. It could also mean I was getting to know him better before doing anything about it. For work related romances, there's a lot at stake so it's good to be sure there's something there/ it's worth the risk of a knock back. Why don't you ask her to do something with just you?. If she likes you, she'll jump at the chance.

Miss Fluff

She sounds interested. I hope you said yes to her suggestion of a few of you going out next week? This is a perfect opportunity to get to know her better and have fun with her over a few drinks without all the pressure of a date. How exciting!

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

She sounds interested. I hope you said yes to her suggestion of a few of you going out next week? This is a perfect opportunity to get to know her better and have fun with her over a few drinks without all the pressure of a date. How exciting!

Thanks for your replies, I said yes to the night out next week but there is 5 of us going so its more of a group gathering! I guess I will be able to have a few drinks and just see what happens! Its pretty mad because, the way things are.. unless I get the courage to tell her how I feel, it could stay a stalemate forever!! From a girls point of view, are there any gieaway signs that I could look for that would give me something to go on?? The problem is, I am not sure if it's just a friend thing or more!! I feel like I want to talk to her all the time and be around her, just not sure if she is feeling the same. I have been in situations before where I really thought someone liked me but got rejected, I guess its a case of once bitten, twice shy! Sorry for waffling!!

LegacyUser

go out at the night out and see how she acts. If all goes well then ask her to meet up for coffee someday or something casual like that and work from there. If it doesnt work out just take it to the chin and brush it off as experience. Good Luck