Should I get back in contact?

LegacyUser

Sorry for length. I had been with my first true ex for 2 years when we broke up. I was 19 when it ended and it hasn't ended up ending well. In fact, I think my ex has serious issues, he still, 3 years on, seems intent on sabotaging every potential guy I meet. But thats not my issue.

My problem is the only guy since this ex that I have met that I truly saw a future with. I met this guy through his friend, a guy who had treated me badly in a romantic setting. I really clicked with this guy for many reasons. We were in a lot of the same classes at college, had a lot of friends in common, and had the same form of wit, to a scale I had never experienced before. And of course we had amazing chemistry.

The last girl this guy had been seeing had cheated on him with a Munster rugby player (that was her motivation, how shallow) and so he was a bit scarred and said he was wary of committing. But we did agree to see only each other. A day later and he kisses another girl in a club in front of me. I was so devestated, it felt like a knife through the heart. Never thought I'd be the type but he apologised and said it was just because he got nervous about how serious we had gotten, after his hurt from his last relationship. But then a week later he did it again so I cut off our relationship. Since then we have scored occasionally and kept in contact because I have never gotten on quite so well with someone.

Basically, I'm so attracted to his personality, the wit, the banter, the stuff he knows about me and my personality that no one else does, that we stayed in contact by Facebook chat and text even after he moved home and I started my Masters in our old university. I won't deny that I still have strong feelings for him/

All this was fine until last December when he got a bit drunk and tried to ring and text me one night at Xmas hoping to come home to me (as in he was horny and I was his booty call, even though by then we hadn't even kissed in about 7 months) even though I wasn't even out and he hadn't seen me in months and we had never had a booty call type of relationship. At the time I was patient and sent one text saying "Go home you fool" then ignored any further contact. But the next night, while drunk, I sent this guy an angry text verbalising issues that had clearly angered me the night before but that I hadn't said out. I don't remember what exactly I said other than that I was giving out to him for continuing to try to use me for sex when he didn't want me any other way. I think I may have asked him to cut all contact with me.

Anyway the end result is that this guy has deleted me from Facebook and stopped texting, and I know its because of my venomous text message, deserved or not I don't know. And even though he treated me awfully, I miss him, I miss our talks. So my question is, given the circumstances, would it be wrong of me to re-invite him as a friend? I am not completely over him but I have improved, and anyway he's moving to the UK soon. So if I do re-invite him its not because I want us back together its because I miss his chat. What should I do? Forget him? Or get back in contact?

Miss Fluff

No harm in sending him a quick message and see if he responds.

Ickle Magoo

Why not check your text out-box to see what you sent him and then see if you think you just venomously told him to leave you alone and he has or if you insulted him and he doesn't want to know you any more? Either way what's the worst that can happen other than he rejects your request?

Ex's sabotaging relationships, cheating right in front of you, booty calls after 7 months? Neither sound like a great catch. Do you think you might be better off just writing them both off and concentrating on yourself for a while?


Best of luck.