Will I ever find miss right??

stevef28

Hi

I am a guy in my late 20's, fairly good looking bloke, good job, nice car, house and all that... only thing is I cant seem to keep to one women,
I have met loads of women in the past year only thing is i find it hard to stay with the one girl... at the moment I have 4 on the go.. nothing serious.. as thats the way i like it, but all i really want to to find the one settle and be happy.. at the rate im going I cant see this happening anytime soon... whats wrong with me.. worst part is i know im hurting them that try get close to me,


Any advice

LegacyUser

why still stay involved with these four women if ur not interested? grow up, stop leading these women on and spend time finding yourself rather than waiting for "miss right" to come along

Lux23

loxalot wrote: »

why still stay involved with these four women if ur not interested? grow up, stop leading these women on and spend time finding yourself rather than waiting for "miss right" to come along

How do you he is leading them on?

OP - I don't think there is a massive problem with what your doing right now, your still very young and there is plenty of time to find the right one. And you will find here but in the meantime enjoy the single life when you can, you will be married with a mortgage long enough.

LegacyUser

Apologies, of course i dont know if he is leading them on, perhaps he has told them he is meeting other women, I recently got burned myself so that touched a nerve with me and i jumped to conclusions

Maybe you should spend time not meeting anyone tho, it can take the pressure of looking for the "right" person, you obv. want something special however the more we want something sometimes the longer it takes to come along. My advise is to take some time out of the dating scene, relax, spend time with friends, take up a hobby and i know its a huge cliche but she will come along when you least expect it

Lux23

sunflower27 wrote: »

If you don't see a long term future with these women, then end it and wait until you meet someone you want to commit to and pursue a relationship with.

So what should he do in the meantime? Sit by the phone like Doris Day and wait for Miss Right to call?

stevef28

3 of them do.. yeah forth is only on the scine a week and a half.. its not like im tricking these women id never do that.. there welcome to walk anytime.. guess what am really asking is how can i not great an over powering feeling that makes you say wow this one is amazing.. I dont want to settle into a relationship just for the sake of it..

LegacyUser

stevef28 wrote: »

3 of them do.. yeah forth is only on the scine a week and a half.. its not like im tricking these women id never do that.. there welcome to walk anytime.. guess what am really asking is how can i not great an over powering feeling that makes you say wow this one is amazing.. I dont want to settle into a relationship just for the sake of it..

OP, you're like a kid in a sweet shop : ) You don't know what you want, so you take everything. Maybe you should back off for a while, spend time with yourself (not in that way : P). The break might help you to see what it is you want in a partner

Cullen82

With 4 on the go you're obviously doing something right anyway


If you have'nt felt that way about anyone I'd say it's just a case of you having to wait till you do...You're right not to settle into a relationship with someone you just "like" or "really like" - too many people get caught up in that situation if you ask me.

LegacyUser

hey OP, I think Cullen has it right - you must be a fairly decent/good looking guy to manage to have four women, all happy to enjoy your company.

Whilst I don't think you're doing anything wrong, and have a lot of respect for you to be so upfront and honest with the girls (I don't know why so many men lie, there are lots of women out there happy to keep things casual so long as ur honest).....

thing is, if the right girl finds you, she might be put off as she might read the situation as 'I'm not looking for anything serious'.....even if she does like you and you her, the doubt might still be there in her head that she's just another casual fling.....

now, that said, this would be first impressions - chances are, once ye get to know one another, and personalities, that will fade...but maybe those first impressions have already hit Ms. Right and driven her away?.......this is just my 2c as I met a guy I quite liked, was friends with him through another friend.......I didn't get to know him too well, and mostly because I kept my distance. I knew he had a good few girls on the go and didn't have a problem with it, but I was reluctant to lay my cards on the table/pursue things as I didn't want to get hurt as I read the situation as he just wanted a lot of casual relationships

C_J

stevef28 wrote: »

Hi

I am a guy in my late 20's, fairly good looking bloke, good job, nice car, house and all that... only thing is I cant seem to keep to one women,
I have met loads of women in the past year only thing is i find it hard to stay with the one girl... at the moment I have 4 on the go.. nothing serious.. as thats the way i like it, but all i really want to to find the one settle and be happy.. at the rate im going I cant see this happening anytime soon... whats wrong with me.. worst part is i know im hurting them that try get close to me,"


To be honest, from the sounds of things none of these 4 are miss right. I think when you do find miss right you won't want to see anyone else but her. 'm by no means saying live like a hermit but I would wonder - are you missing her while you're out with the others??

XarcherX

4 on the go, wow! sounds like you're much too busy to get to know any of them really well individually...