How to Get over Her??

LegacyUser

Broke up with my Girlfriend, it was a long term, shes 19 said she needed time to be alone and some space just to worry about herself.(As girls seem to do at that age, been here before) She had some personal Issues too and alot of other stuff going on, so I was allright about it and decided that if its to be its to be and it would probably make things a bit better as we could sort out ourselves and get stuff out of our systems before we think about getting serious, either with each other or somebody else.

The thing is she is still texting me and Im replying, we only broke up recentley and Ive seen her alot, and when we did meet up the spark was still there, that effortless kinda feeling.

Ive gone out and kissed somebody the other day, which usually helps but it hasnt, even when I was kissing the Girl I was thinking of my ex, I think about her every second of the day, I dont know what to do? FWIW we decided to break up, rather than a Break because She knew that I think Breaks are full of **** anyways.

I know shes happier now that shes single and doesnt have to worry about me and the usual stuff. She can do what she pleases. But I dont think I am, Its eating me up inside. I know Ive to give her space but its very very hard.

InTheTrees

Well you didnt really break up did you?

It doesnt even sound like you were both too committed to breaking up either.

LegacyUser

you should ask if you guys have actually broken up as it sounds like she just wants to slow things down.

LegacyUser

Im certain we are broken up, maybe she wants her cake and to eat it? But it doesnt sound like something a somebody so close would do.

Maybe she just wants to keep the Door open for a return instead of the usual slamming it when a break up happens?

I think she was feeling crowded in the relationship, maybe she just needs to slow it up or space which is kinda what she asked for. But I can do that while still being with her? Girls are really strange at that age.

Erica<3

it sounds like she may not want you right now, but she doesn't want to loosen her hold too much in case you go off with someone else.

patsman07

Watch the film 'Swingers.' Vince Vaughan and Jon Favreau are in it. Worked for me.

LegacyUser

Erica<3 wrote: »

it sounds like she may not want you right now, but she doesn't want to loosen her hold too much in case you go off with someone else.

Ive tried to go off with somebody else, but it didnt work and made things worse. I have never felt this way about somebody, and I know there is something there because it wouldnt hurt if there wasnt. I know she loves me, but why do this? Does she expect me to chase her or something?

This is such a crap place to be, if she goes off with somebody else I dont know how I will take that.

Do you reckon Leave her for a few months then try kickstart it again, or try now? I think I should leave the Dust settle for awhile and let her figure out what shes feeling becasue I dont want to repeat this.

krudler

go on a holiday or take a few days and go somewhere else in the country with your friends or alone, its a massive help to be in new surroundings and not thinking about the ex all the time. always worked for me.

um7y1h83ge06nx

Right, time to lay it out on the table.

Since Tuesday I'm in almost the exact same position as you. She needs space and we have 'broken up' but extremely amicably and we haven't ruled out anything in the future.

The worst f**king thing for me is to allow her the space she needs. Maybe you need to focus on something. I have an exam on the 13th of May and will try and use that as a marker to not contact her until then unless she contacts me first.

I'm going to attempt to move on but not rule anything out. Great in theory, extremely tough in practice.

Feel free to send me a PM if you want man, nothing like sharing a problem.

LegacyUser

Orion Sharp Bunny wrote: »

Right, time to lay it out on the table.

Since Tuesday I'm in almost the exact same position as you. She needs space and we have 'broken up' but extremely amicably and we haven't ruled out anything in the future.

The worst f**king thing for me is to allow her the space she needs. Maybe you need to focus on something. I have an exam on the 13th of May and will try and use that as a marker to not contact her until then unless she contacts me first.

I'm going to attempt to move on but not rule anything out. Great in theory, extremely tough in practice.

Feel free to send me a PM if you want man, nothing like sharing a problem.

Ive exams too in may. You sure you are not me?!! Its a ****ty thing, but Im strangely happy that shes happy. But I just wish we could get back together and get some stability back! Doing it during "Squeeky Bumtime" before exams is abit ****ty too.

Im like you, Im letting her come to me when she wants as opposed to me pushing her away. Probably the best option. I hope everything works out great for both of us, because I know that I want to spend alot more time with her, probably the same with you.

um7y1h83ge06nx

Definitely, we'll just have to attempt to keep clear heads, not presume too much but be open to anything.

My girl tends to put her head in the sand a bit so in a few weeks I'll try to arrange a meet up and see.

What gets me is in this situation the most productive thing to do is to do nothing at all. It's not like an exam where you can help things by studying past papers, studying etc.

I also have to take the attitude that I am now indeed single.