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How to get my confidence back?

  • 21-04-2010 2:02pm
    #1
    jambon29
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 46 ✭


    I used to be a happy go lucky person but in the last few months i lost my job and can feel my confidence drifting away. I feel awkward talking to people, getting nervous and sweaty which is unlike me. Also my confidence is gone on the sports field, i often hope i'm on the bench, etc. I'm not a bad looking fella and have success with the women but i'm definetely not same lately. Has anyone got any tips to get my confidence back. I dread starting a new job with my confidence gone.


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  • #2
    unclecessna
    Closed Accounts Posts: 90 ✭✭unclecessna


    It's tough and loads of people are in the same boat, just walk down any busy city street in Ireland during the daytime and note the amount of scowling faces you will see.

    The problem is if you lose your job in a sense you lose your day to day purpose and part of your identity. With no purpose in life it is very hard to feel confident and happy in oneself.

    Can't really offer you any helpful advice I am afraid beyond keep up the job search and keep the faith.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Sometimes when you feel that you've 'failed' in some part of your life, you just want to hide/not get noticed, etc, but try to distract youself with stuff you like doing while you find another job (don't dwell on it too much and keep yourself occupied).

    Focus on the things you like about yourself and your life and remind yourself of them every day. Surround yourself with positive people. Try to not give into the anxiety (keep talking to people even if you sometimes don't feel comfortable, keep playing your sport), or it might develop into a more serious thing.

    I know it all sounds typical and cliched, but I think it's really important that you don't let it get you down too much.

    Good luck.


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