Guys help for a girl please - bedroom

LegacyUser

Hi Guys.. Mid 20's.. been with my boyfriend for 6 months now and recently started sleeping together. Guess my question is feel bad as im quite unexprienced he always has to initiate anything happening.. I suppose it's due to shyness and fear of not knowing what to do on my part.. ok so any help on ways guys like girls to get them in the mood.. thanks and sorry if seems stupid question

Nevyn

Why don't you aske him what he would like?

krudler

Eactly, nobody here can tell you what will turn him on, what some men find attractive others wouldnt. Just plain out ask him, and if he makes a few suggestions then surprise him with one or a few of them, be it lingerie or something like that.

Personally speaking I love it when my girlfriend initiates sex, it makes me feel really wanted and that we're not doing it only because I've suggested it.

ilovetosing

Hi OP you sound like you are in a similar situation to my GF. She is very shy and does not really chase me for sex that often. Not only that she is afraid of trying new things and branching out of her comfort region as she is afraid she will be bad at certain things. Pffft I say to this all the time "that I am no genius in bed"

My only advice is this. Talk to him like the previous posters have said. I am very open with my OH about what I like and I always keep the communications open and even tho we still have the issue I know that over time it will disappear and be forgotten about. If he is decent then he will be open and understanding of how you feel and through this you will be more relaxed about initiating things and when you see how much he loves it when you do you will be a new person.

InTheTrees

Asking him is good. He's probably no expert either so may be shy, just gently letting him know you're willing to learn is probably enough at this point.

miss5

I think you should discuss it together, I'm sure he will love it.
In all relationships it takes time to get to know what the other likes.
Good Luck!

InTheTrees

Male physiology can be a minefield for young men, seriously its like having two brains sometimes.

Basically treat him like a 5 year old even though he;s trying to act like the Hard Man. Let him know you're not competing but just having fun together and there's no pressure.

steddyeddy

InTheTrees wrote: »

Male physiology can be a minefield for young men, seriously its like having two brains sometimes.

Basically treat him like a 5 year old even though he;s trying to act like the Hard Man. Let him know you're not competing but just having fun together and there's no pressure.

+1

Asking him what he would like would be a turn on in itself it would make him feel that your more open to different things.

Mackman

IMO the greatest turn on is a woman who actually wants to sleep with you. All i need to get in the mood is the OH jumping on me

+1 on talking to him about it too. it the universal answer to most relationship problems