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3 dates on...where next ?

  • 20-04-2010 10:43am
    #1
    Rosso
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86 ✭✭


    Hi all. First of all, apologies if my question/query/problem sounds trivial and silly. I've been out of the dating scene for a few years now (due to various reason) and just dont know where do go on from here.

    Basically I asked this girl out from work whom I had a crush on. We went out 3 times now over the past 3 weeks and so far so good. I'm always nervous before each date, as I know I am not the chatty type and hopeless at making small talk, but funny enough, it always went well.

    Thing is..where do I go from here? I like her, and I THINK she likes me. She agreed to a 4th date tomorrow..and to go watch Cats next week. She seems to remember everything I tell me about myself. I guess, my question is...how do I make the relationship 'official'? I mean, the last time I used the phrase '' will you be my 'steady' I was in school ''!:D Is it too soon ? Shall I wait a little longer? I dont want to be rushing into things and put pressure on her.


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  • #2
    buswankers
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 495 ✭✭buswankers


    Hi OP

    First of all, fair play to you - you've already done the hardest part which is asking the girl out in the first place!!
    I think you should now just try & relax a bit and enjoy these early stages of the relationship....trying to put a label on it after only a couple of dates may scare the girl off.
    now i know everyone is different but personally i would prefer to be at a more relaxed stage in the relationsip (i.e past the meeting once a week for a date) before there were any discussions of making things official...your still both finding your feet with each other - so give it a chance!

    I would hold off on having the chat until a stage where you are meeting up outside of work a couple of times a week & not just for 'official dates'. like stuff like having a night in wathcing a dvd or cooking her a nice meal etc etc Until your at a point where your both at ease with each other & no longer nervous....
    As for what to say....not really sure i can help with that...guess i'd just hope that if that nervousness was no longer there that what to say would just come naturally!!

    Sorry - bit all over the place but hope it helps some!
    Good luck :)


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