Boyfriend too well endowed for me

LegacyUser

hi all, i have a really unusual problem. my boyfriend is too well endowed for me. he isnt freaky big but is a lot bigger then average. we are both in our early thirties and in a serious relationship. during sex when the passion is going i never notice if we are going too hard for me but afterwards im usually in a lot of pain and nearly always get sick. my stomach feels like its been on a crazy rollercoaster after a large lunch. my boyfriend and i have talked about it but only a little, he kind of half laughs at it and makes his own ooh check me out being so big jokes. he is concerned that im sick and trys to take care of me but i dont know what to do about it.

our sex life is amazing but this constant sickness is starting to turn me off a bit. our sex life is very active, probably on average we are having sex about 7-10 times a week. i dont really know what to do about it, its becoming a big problem for me. i hate feeling so bad after sex but i dont want to settle for a less than what we have sex life? any ideas?? thanks for all your help

Zombrex

have you been to see a doctor?

Emme

The best person to advise you is a doctor.

Nevyn

I would say he need to stop bumping your cervix, that he should stop before he hits and pull back at that point. Also try positions where you legs are down (like missionary) which lengthens the vagina rather then ones in which shorten it ( legs up in the air or knees bent back). If it's an issue when you are on top then you can by a sex aid which is shaped like a doughnut which stops you getting penetrated too deeply, google will show you what it is like.

If you are having such rigorous sex that you are in pain after wards once the rush of endorphines is over maybe you need to slow down and do make sure you get a smear test and bruising of the cervix can lead to abnormal cells.

MagicSean

Have you tried lubricant? If the issue is girth rather than length this could help. You should also investigate wether you might be having a reaction to the condoms (if you are using them) as an allergy to latex can bring about the same problems, especially the feeling of sickness(happened to me and my gf). Maybe try non-latex condoms for a while and see if it makes a difference.

Cuddlesworth

As Thaedydal said you need to try positions where the full length isn't being inserted. Stomach down, on your side etc.

I also believe that extra muscle control inside helps, tensing exercises worked for somebody I know.

Abi

unregistered101 wrote: »

hi all, i have a really unusual problem. my boyfriend is too well endowed for me.

It's not as unusual as you think. I've had the same problem with past partners, and have in fact bled as a result after. I received some helpful advice here too.

he isnt freaky big but is a lot bigger then average. we are both in our early thirties and in a serious relationship. during sex when the passion is going i never notice if we are going too hard for me but afterwards im usually in a lot of pain and nearly always get sick.

I never really got the sickness feeling, but certainly felt very tender down there for a couple of days after.

my stomach feels like its been on a crazy rollercoaster after a large lunch. my boyfriend and i have talked about it but only a little, he kind of half laughs at it and makes his own ooh check me out being so big jokes. he is concerned that im sick and trys to take care of me but i dont know what to do about it.

Well you need to chat with him, and tell him its putting you off sex a bit. I think he'll sit up and listen then

But this is good advice that he needs to hear, particularly about bleeding and bruising there, and abormal cell growth-

Thaedydal wrote: »

I would say he need to stop bumping your cervix, that he should stop before he hits and pull back at that point. Also try positions where you legs are down (like missionary) which lengthens the vagina rather then ones in which shorten it ( legs up in the air or knees bent back). If it's an issue when you are on top then you can by a sex aid which is shaped like a doughnut which stops you getting penetrated too deeply, google will show you what it is like.

If you are having such rigorous sex that you are in pain after wards once the rush of endorphines is over maybe you need to slow down and do make sure you get a smear test and bruising of the cervix can lead to abnormal cells.

bubblybox

I have the same issue sometimes, feels like the inner wall at the front is spasming because of the pain...as said above I find it varies with positions, me on top and lying back with my legs up (unfortunately too of the best!) can really hurt. Instead of outlawing them completely we just mix it up if it starts to hurt or he doesnt thrust as hard for a few mins..

Never heard of sickness though, I just get very very crampy - however if I am ever in extreme pain I do feel nausia so maybe its that

Good luck!

Overheal

Thaedydal wrote: »

I would say he need to stop bumping your cervix, that he should stop before he hits and pull back at that point. Also try positions where you legs are down (like missionary) which lengthens the vagina rather then ones in which shorten it ( legs up in the air or knees bent back). If it's an issue when you are on top then you can by a sex aid which is shaped like a doughnut which stops you getting penetrated too deeply, google will show you what it is like.

If you are having such rigorous sex that you are in pain after wards once the rush of endorphines is over maybe you need to slow down and do make sure you get a smear test and bruising of the cervix can lead to abnormal cells.

Cant you get like a... like a washer or something?

http://www.go2marine.com/product.do?no=163394F&WT.mc_id=gb1

Something to physically prevent him from going far enough in to damage your cervix.

Or as already said try positions which take advantage of the additional Reach.

Nevyn

The ring doughnut sex aid is just that, the body bouncer is another good option.