Date finished, not sure what to do now...

LegacyUser

So within the last 2 days i went on a date with a lovely woman for food and drinks, nice and casual like but still a romantic feel to it...anyways things went alright i guess although me being a bit quiet didnt help as it takes like 2-3 meetings to open up to someone. So she tells me she is due to meet some friends nearby and i walk her there, have another drink and they were moving on but so was i, as some of my friends were also out and i let her know earlier i'd be meeting with them etc...she was fine with it.

So we kissed and parted ways, but now unsure as to when i should contact her...she has not got back to me yet so should i wait? I've text her saying i had a good time and hoped she did too. Would like to see her again though:)

tl;dr?

Was on a date, had a good time not sure if she did but have not heard back from her yet...should i wait it out or not?

Miss Fluff

Give it a couple more days, she might not have any credit etc. Then give her a call on Tuesday asking her out again

zxcvbnm1

alternatively just send her a text asking her to meet up on a specific day. That way there's a concrete offer of a date out there which she will either accept or refuse.
To be honest though given that she has not responded yet is not a good sign.

LegacyUser

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Give it a couple more days, she might not have any credit etc. Then give her a call on Tuesday asking her out again

Although I can only quote one post here, this is true, I was thinking about doing just that as there was something coming up in a few days I'd like to invite her to...but zxcvbnm1 is also right because it doesn't really look good having not even a random text at this stage. Plus having seen through another social networking site where we are friends, it seems a friend of hers that she met up with afterwards tried to hook her up with another guy on the night, which is really bad form like and really made me feel like crap...:(

At this stage I'm just thinking sure f**k it and move on, even though I'd pretty much like to give it one more chance to rectify the situation.

Gyalist

Dating_guy wrote: »

Plus having seen through another social networking site where we are friends, it seems a friend of hers that she met up with afterwards tried to hook her up with another guy on the night, which is really bad form like and really made me feel like crap...:(

At this stage I'm just thinking sure f**k it and move on, even though I'd pretty much like to give it one more chance to rectify the situation.

How is it bad form? You've only been on one date with the woman and you clearly aren't in a relationship with her. Or am I missing something?

j1974

Dating_guy wrote: »

So within the last 2 days i went on a date with a lovely woman for food and drinks, nice and casual like but still a romantic feel to it...anyways things went alright i guess although me being a bit quiet didnt help as it takes like 2-3 meetings to open up to someone. So she tells me she is due to meet some friends nearby and i walk her there, have another drink and they were moving on but so was i, as some of my friends were also out and i let her know earlier i'd be meeting with them etc...she was fine with it.

So we kissed and parted ways, but now unsure as to when i should contact her...she has not got back to me yet so should i wait? I've text her saying i had a good time and hoped she did too. Would like to see her again though:)

tl;dr?

Was on a date, had a good time not sure if she did but have not heard back from her yet...should i wait it out or not?

hey there,

Im p[robably going to get slated here for saying this but im sure some might agree. It's aleays been my opinion in the past that if a girl either party on a date, decides to go their seperate ways to meet friends at the end of the night, then he or she, was never that interested in the first place. How often do you see your mates???

I think she gave herself a "get out clause" buy going to meet her mates and "moving on". I know you did the same, which probably compounded matters and may left her feeing that you were doing the same, having stated your intentions before hand.

Dont take notice of anyone offering advice such as " oh maybe she had no credit", in this day and age. Look, bottom line, you already txt her and told her you had a lovely time, if you didnt get a reply, she's doing one of two things I feel, A) she's racking her brain, trying to think of a way to let you down lightly. sweet, though it doesnt do you any favours. or she's just plain ignoring you and hoping you'll ge the message.

You shouldnt have told her that you were meeting friends realy mate, I mean even it the date was going horribly wrong, we've all been there. Ya just see it thru and chalk it up to a bad experience. But under no circumstances do you txt her again. she'll loose any respect for you that she has.

just forget about it and perhaps youll bump inot her some time and you can start from scratch if it suits.

j1974

j1974 wrote: »

hey there,

Im p[robably going to get slated here for saying this but im sure some might agree. It's aleays been my opinion in the past that if a girl either party on a date, decides to go their seperate ways to meet friends at the end of the night, then he or she, was never that interested in the first place. How often do you see your mates???

I think she gave herself a "get out clause" buy going to meet her mates and "moving on". I know you did the same, which probably compounded matters and may left her feeing that you were doing the same, having stated your intentions before hand.

Dont take notice of anyone offering advice such as " oh maybe she had no credit", in this day and age. Look, bottom line, you already txt her and told her you had a lovely time, if you didnt get a reply, she's doing one of two things I feel, A) she's racking her brain, trying to think of a way to let you down lightly. sweet, though it doesnt do you any favours. or she's just plain ignoring you and hoping you'll ge the message.

You shouldnt have told her that you were meeting friends realy mate, I mean even it the date was going horribly wrong, we've all been there. Ya just see it thru and chalk it up to a bad experience. But under no circumstances do you txt her again. she'll loose any respect for you that she has.

just forget about it and perhaps youll bump inot her some time and you can start from scratch if it suits.

hey there,

Im probably going to get slated here for saying this but im sure some might agree. It's always been my opinion in the past that if either party on a date, decides to go their seperate ways to meet friends at the end of the night, then he or she, was never that interested in the first place. How often do you see your mates???

I think she gave herself a "get out clause" buy going to meet her mates and "moving on". I know you did the same, which probably compounded matters and may left her feeing that you were doing the same, having stated your intentions before hand.

Dont take notice of anyone offering advice such as " oh maybe she had no credit", in this day and age. Look, bottom line, you already txt her and told her you had a lovely time, if you didnt get a reply, she's doing one of two things I feel, A) she's racking her brain, trying to think of a way to let you down lightly. sweet, though it doesnt do you any favours. or she's just plain ignoring you and hoping you'll get the message.

You shouldnt have told her that you were meeting friends realy mate, I mean even if the date was going horribly wrong, we've all been there. Ya just see it thru and chalk it up to a bad experience. But under no circumstances do you txt her again. she'll loose any respect for you that she has.

just forget about it and perhaps youll bump inot her some time and you can start from scratch if it suits.

LegacyUser

Gyalist wrote: »

How is it bad form? You've only been on one date with the woman and you clearly aren't in a relationship with her. Or am I missing something?

Just thought that after being out with a guy, even ending time together with a lovely kiss and suddenly hooking up with another guy only a few hours later sounds pretty strange to me...

Miss Fluff: turns out she had no credit for like 2 days anyway couldnt text anyone:)

J1974: Thats exactly what i didnt want to happen, for her to see me heading off to the mates as a get-out clause...i really wanted to be with just her that night but sadly ruined it i think I even offered to take her with me to meet them but she had joined her friends as i was leaving.

Have figured out though that i will man up and just give her a call, let her know how i ruined it, realised how much of a fool i was that i should have stayed with her and will offer to re-do a first date proper like. I'm 24, she's 23 but we should be both old enough to let silly things slide and try to get over them. I dont find it easy to meet women ever so really do not want to mess this up you see

Ah well, best of luck to me and all that, sure whats the worst that can happen...i never see her again? i can live with that if things dont go well.:)