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Boyfriend's father has just died how do i help

  • 18-04-2010 12:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    My boyfriends father had died suddenly yesterday from a crash, worst is my bf never got on with his father as his father and him had a bad relationship, so last week his father and mother split after so many years his father moved out to live with his brother . my bf was happy as his father moved out but since of yesterday he is in a very bad situation as it was so sudden.

    All I want to know is how can I help him through this?


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  • #2
    Victor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    I imagine the most important thing is to just be there for him and let him know that if he wants to talk or needs anything done to just ask.


  • #3
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    What would he like you to do?

    Everyone reacts to grief differently and irrespective of the relationship he had with his father, I imagine at the moment he is in shock and that will convert to grief in time. Some people want to be left along to think over things, remember the person they lost, cry, get angry, etc. Others want a shoulder to cry on and to talk about their feelings. There is no right or wrong and no specifics that you can do that would definitely be appreciated by your bf. Just let him know you are there, willing and able to help in whatever way he sees fit. Ask if he needs space or would like you to do anything and see what he says.

    Best of luck


  • #4
    lizzie09
    Closed Accounts Posts: 91 ✭✭lizzie09


    I'm sure your company will mean a huge lot to him
    It is such a sudden thing that he will be grief stricken at the thought
    of what might have been between them.

    I think this is the worst type of bereavement as it leaves a lot unsaid.

    I am so sorry for your BF at this awful time and his mother must
    be so upset too.


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