dont know what to do

LegacyUser

Ive been with my partner 6 years. i love him to bits and i always will. very recently i lost both of my parents and im trying to cope with it the best i can and dont want to be bothering him with it. its now come to the stage where hes talking about marriage and kids. to be honest hes great but quite recently hes lost his job and hes fantastic around the house and when i get home i make dinner, so last night i told him i was going out with my friends tonight, he said yeah cool but just make my dinner before you go out, i told him to do it himself and he then told me im lazy....i get up at 6, come home at 7 and meanwhile he cant manage to prepare anymore than a sandwich...anyway, he goes up to his parents most days for his dinner and i collect him, so in essence im feeling like a replacement mam to him... also im thinking of going to work in an orphanage in south africa ive been reading about, i just couldnt bear to have children of my own and have them feel the way i do when i die, and although i love my other half dearly too but i couldnt bear to lose him but i think if i walk now it wont hurt so much...any thoughts....?

LegacyUser

userunreg wrote: »

Ivery recently i lost both of my parents

i just couldnt bear to have children of my own and have them feel the way i do when i die

Forget about anything else, this is your issue. You need to deal with the grief you have from the loss of your parents. Maybe go talk to a grief counselor. Take your time and sort yourself out before you make any big decisions. It can take people years to deal with the loss of parents or someone close to them.

dublingal80

have you talked to him about how you are feeling?

LegacyUser

i have and he just puts his arms around me and tells me he loves me, i really love him but i can just see him walking coz when i get down i really get teary and its not fair on him, hes really good to me and treats me well but the pain from my loss just gets to me sometimes, im scared of losing him but i just think were not too long into it and maybe im better off alone

Taltos

Yup - it sounds like he is stuck in the last century if he expects you to wait on him hand and foot.
Surprised you are not turning it around on him - you know - will be home at 7, can you make sure all the laundry is finished and the grass cut - oh and for dinner I want.... - now that is a bit much as in here he is looking for a job I am sure - but at a min each day you should be getting home to a freshly prepared meal...

LegacyUser

in his defence, he does all the laundry and housework and all i have to do is the meals so its not as though hes just lording it, i love just talking here, its so relaxed, thanks to everyone, you have no idea how much this means just to be able to say exactly whats on my mind