should i text her?

zxcvbnm1

ok - had a date with a girl.
I fell for her.
have had loads of dates and this never happens - ever !

She definitely seemed interested on the date. as in - she genuinely did seem to be interested.

She said by text she was on for another date - and then heard nothing back !
I may have made a small boo-boo at the end of the date though.Nothinmg m,ajor - but ya..a small boo-boo.

I suspect its because of this boo-boo why she didnt get back.
Although obviously its possible because she just simply ist interested and i am reading teh whole thing incorrectly.

On the off chance its because of the boo-boo then i am thinking she may agree to another date with a small bit of gentkle prodding with another text.
Its one of those ones where you know you should probably just draw a line under it but cant.

I met her in a club so i certainly wouldnt be bumping into her again if she rejects another date by text.

Has anyone been in this position before and it actually worked out?
Or should i just let it slide so i can look back on teh whole thing with a small bigt of dignity?

MagicSean

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

ok - had a date with a girl.
I fell for her.
have had loads of dates and this never happens - ever !

She definitely seemed interested on the date. as in - she genuinely did seem to be interested.

She said by text she was on for another date - and then heard nothing back !
I may have made a small boo-boo at the end of the date though.Nothinmg m,ajor - but ya..a small boo-boo.

I suspect its because of this boo-boo why she didnt get back.
Although obviously its possible because she just simply ist interested and i am reading teh whole thing incorrectly.

On the off chance its because of the boo-boo then i am thinking she may agree to another date with a small bit of gentkle prodding with another text.
Its one of those ones where you know you should probably just draw a line under it but cant.

I met her in a club so i certainly wouldnt be bumping into her again if she rejects another date by text.

Has anyone been in this position before and it actually worked out?
Or should i just let it slide so i can look back on teh whole thing with a small bigt of dignity?

What was the small boo-boo?

Ickle Magoo

She hasn't sent you a text. Will you text her? What's she thinking? Gah!

Why don't you just pick up the phone and call her and ask her out? I can't stand it when guys try to conduct something that's supposed to be romantic and heartfelt via text - perhaps she's the same? If you made a boo-boo (depending on severity) calling her up and chatting always puts you in a better light and is more difficult to refuse than a text.

Best of luck!

Abi

k_mac wrote: »

What was the small boo-boo?

+1


It does matter what this 'boo boo' was. Yourself and this girl have only been going out a short while and still learning all about each other. At the beginning of something new, a negative can completely change how someone sees you.


You're anon here anyway, so you might as well spill the beans

AnonoBoy

Phone her.

Don't text her.

You'll save yourself hours of wondering will she/won't she. Also it puts you across as a more confident guy.

mood

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

She hasn't sent you a text. Will you text her? What's she thinking? Gah!

Why don't you just pick up the phone and call her and ask her out? I can't stand it when guys try to conduct something that's supposed to be romantic and heartfelt via text - perhaps she's the same? If you made a boo-boo (depending on severity) calling her up and chatting always puts you in a better light and is more difficult to refuse than a text.

Best of luck!

+1.

Phone calls are much better. Also you may never know if you don't ask.

And what was the 'boo boo'?

pinkpigs

Pick up the phone and call her.

Sometimes the tones of texts are too hard to decipher, so call her.

Was the boo boo that bad that you don't want to divulge??

PP

Redpunto

I'd send her a text and then follow up with a call - You'll be letting her know you're interested and at least then youll know if she doesnt want to see you again.

JonathanAnon

Call her and ask her out.. What do you have to lose?

I do find it a bit strange that you have "fallen" for her after one date all the same.

zxcvbnm1

Ya. Anyway. An update - I texted her. No joy unfortunately.

mood

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Ya. Anyway. An update - I texted her. No joy unfortunately.

Pity. But at least you know and can move on.

Piriz

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Ya. Anyway. An update - I texted her. No joy unfortunately.

Will you tell us the boo boo tho, coz eh other people could do with learning from your mistakes...ahem...you know

davmol

Was teh boo boo you told her was that you wee falling for her?

that is a Noo Noo,if you did that id be surprised if u heard rom her again

zxcvbnm1

the boo-boo.
Well - the booze hit me all of a sudden at the end. She wanted to leave the pub and go home (it was very late at this point) - so insyead of leaving with her i drunkenly stated i'd stay on for another one myself. and just left her leave by herself.

I was drunk at this point - and just stayed sitting on the stool as she left - did n't even manage to raise my ass off the stool to kiss her goodbye. barely managed to utter teh wortds goodbye.
What can i say - the booze just had a sudden effect on me atthat point.

We had been snogging earlier in the night so obviously a kiss would have been apprpriate (leaving at the same time and walking her to the cab would obvioulsy been more appropriate )

Is this an automatic red card offence generally?
It was definitely all going well up to this point.

Or maybe i'm making a bigger deal out of this and maybe she didn't mind that at all and i read teh night wrong whereby she just simply wasn't interested.
As in - maybe i'm just convincing myself it was because of this why she didn'yt go through with the 2nd date in teh end as opposed to her simply not bneing interested.

LD 50

That's fairly serious. What that said to her at the last minute, which is what she'll remember, was that you weren't even bothered about the date, and that perhaps all you were after was a drunken snogging session, that you preffered the drink more than her company, and that you couldn't even hold your drink. Even if you had of gotten into the taxi with her drunk wouldn't have been as bad. I don't blame the girl for not texting you back. And anyways nearly everyone here told you to call her. Why ask for advice and then ignore it.
So if you really like her, call her up and if she answers you can explain yourself, and apologize and ask to make it up to her. If she cancels your call or it rings out, leave a very sincere apology on her voicemail. But don't expect much.

Or maybe she's just been busy and hasn't had a chance to text you back.

zxcvbnm1

LD 50 wrote: »

That's fairly serious. What that said to her was that you weren't even bothered about the date, that you preffered the drink more than her company, and that you couldn't even hold your drink. Even if you had of gotten into the taxi with her drunk wouldn't have been as bad. I don't blame the girl for not texting you back. And anyways nearly everyone here told you to call her. So if you really like her, call her up and if she answers you can explain yourself, and apologize and ask to make it up to her. If she cancels your call leave a very sincere apology on her voicemail.

Ya. it wasn't great form at all by me.
What can i say. It was a moment of very bad judgement on my part.
i got drunk. A weak excuse. But thats what happened.

LD 50

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Ya. Anyway. An update - I texted her. No joy unfortunately.

Did she not text you back or say did she say she didn't want to go on another date?

Ickle Magoo

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

Ya. it wasn't great form at all by me.
What can i say. It was a moment of very bad judgement on my part.
i got drunk. A weak excuse. But thats what happened.

A weak excuse and you followed it up with the cowards way out - a text. Way to go. Why ask and then just ignore the advice given?

zxcvbnm1

LD 50 wrote: »

Did she not text you back or say did she say she didn't want to go on another date?

texted back to say she wasnt gonna go on another date.

But a coupel of days prior to this she texted back agreeing to go on another date. So she changed her mind basically.

zxcvbnm1

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

A weak excuse and you followed it up with the cowards way out - a text. Way to go. Why ask and then just ignore the advice given?

well.. to be fair.. up to that point texting was teh form of communication. (well ... 1 text each)
And also - for peopel to text after dates isn't that unusual as oppoed to ringing.

dellas1979

Ok, my advice is to back off for a few weeks - then ring her (if she doesnt answer leave a voice message -no texting as one poster said ringing makes it more of an effort) and tell her you have had time to think about behaviour on the first date and are sorry for what happened - hopefully it is something she can laugh about in a few years.

This shows that:
A - you are interested in her
B - you can admit mistakes
C - you are willing to apologise

At least you will know for sure.

LD 50

In this situation a phone call wouldn't have hurt. neither would an apology for making an ass of yourself that night. Just a simple "sorry for my behaviour the other night. I'd have liked the chance to make it up to you, but I don't blame you for not wanting to"

Ickle Magoo

zxcvbnm1 wrote: »

well.. to be fair.. up to that point texting was teh form of communication. (well ... 1 text each)
And also - for peopel to text after dates isn't that unusual as oppoed to ringing.

It isn't that unusual when the date went well and there's nothing more to discuss than when & where to have the next one.

However, you were a complete ass-hat on your date and you took the easy way out by texting her about it rather than manning up and phoning her to apologise and show her you really cared enough about salvaging things to go to the stress and make yourself vulnerable by facing up to it person to person - even if only on the end of a phone. If she was clinging onto some shred of hope that you'd come good, you absolutely blew it by not calling. All posters advised you to pick up the phone, you ignored them, she doesn't want to know - lesson learnt.

CDfm

OP - you should call and apologise as you were a right *****

It seems to me that by not mentioning it and apologising you have dug yourself into a hole and may have given her the impression that you feel your behavior was acceptable.A small boo boo would have been flatulence in a taxi.

You asked her for a date when you should have asked to meet up to apologise.

If you cant drink responsibly well...........................:cool: