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One of those awkward situations

  • 13-04-2010 06:26AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    So basically there is a teacher in my year whom I see everyday in college. Since the first term I've gotten to know her well and I started to grow fond of her. After a while it grew into a crush and I tried really hard to ignore those feelings but they have not gone away, if anything they are getting stronger, leading to sleepless nights where I would be wide awake wondering, what if...

    Today I found out I'll have her again next year. And honestly, I don't know what to do from here. I stayed away from women/dating outside of college because I didn't want any distractions from my studies but, as things happen.. so much for that idea!

    I really like her and I would like to have a romantic relationship but her, but alas I highly doubt it would happen with are situation. For all I know she is spoken for. I've tried not to slip up while talking to her that I felt this way.

    I'm just looking for some advice here, any input would be really appreciated.


Comments

  • #2
    entropi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,731 ✭✭✭✭entropi


    My advice would be to let this issue drop as soon as you can. People who work in areas of vulnerability (teachers/therapists/medical) etc are trained to avoid such situations, and there is a fine line that is usually drawn between teacher/student etc that cannot be crossed. It is not professional for them to even consider it, I myself have been through this training as a therapist and can vouch for it, she will not want to hear this from you as it puts her in a very uneasy position...and she is not going to sacrifice her career for a student.

    Hopefully the gravity of the situation is clear to you now, she must NEVER know this while you are a student in this school/college. Maybe in a few years if you happen to meet up while out on the town etc, who knows.


  • #3
    mood
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    OP I think staying away from girls has got you into this situation. Most people manage college and a love/social life so it shouldn't affect your college work. Start dating girls will take your mind off the teacher and you will have a change of having a real relationship. Your teacher will most likely never get involved with a student or she risks loosing her career.


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