How long can a guy go without seeing a girl before losing interest?

LegacyUser

I'm actually driving myself crazy at the moment over-analysing a situation I have with a man at the moment. Would really appreciate some advice/reassurance if appropriate!

I met a guy in a club about a month ago. I noticed him straight away as he's extremely tall and built and I thought he was gorgeous. Some of the lads I was with knew who he was as he's quite well known, but not in an arena I'd be interested in. I didn't have a notion of going near him as I'd be quite shy like that. Anyway, he approached me with a very flimsy excuse to start a conversation..He went back to his friends but when I was at the bar and he was across from me, the bar tender told me he'd paid for my drinks. We ended up chatting half the night and eventually kissing..I was delighted as I really liked him straight off the bat.. I went back to his that night but really we were just kissing all night.. When I left the next day, he texted ten minutes after and we've been in contact really ever since.

That all sounds great but the problem is that I haven't seen him since over the last month.He lives about a hundred miles away and has a seriously demanding career that takes him out of the country most weekends. I'm working all week so weekdays are out too. We talk as well as text and he's told me repeatedly that he really wants to see me and is very interested, thinks I'm stunning, has gone through all my facebook pictures a load of times etc. I hope to see him in about ten days.. It's just that a few of my friends, especially my male friends, have said that no guy is going to still be interested in a girl they've hooked up with once if they don't see her for that long and that he'll lose interest soon in me. I'm very conflicted about this as we're talking/texting every night, so he's clearly not out on dates the whole time and I know for a fact he's been tied up since. As I said he's in the public eye, as is his career so I' be hard to lie about it! I guess because he's in a position where girls would be throwing themselves at him (they blatantly were that night), I'm verrrrrry paranoid that he'll just decide I'm too much effort and just leave things. I am MAD about this man. We get on great and I fancy the pants off him.

If you really like a girl, would such a stretch of time seem unreasonable? I'm overanalysing everything at this point and have myself half-convinced that guys wouldn't think any girl would be worth the hassle, despite the fact he constantly says, of his own accord and unprompted, that he's dying to see me.. I wish I could stop letting people removed from the situation make me doubt things so much.

He's also moving here for work in the summer, so there's definitely relationship potential there..

Red Hand

I'd disagree with your friends that think that just because ye hooked up once and haven't seen each other for a month or two, that he'll lose interest. They may be projecting their own feelings to your situation.

As for a month or so being too long a time since seeing someone, I wouldn't say so. If ye are in contact most days, and he fancies you and you fancy him, then there is no harm in waiting for a second meeting. It's not like either of you has anything to lose from waiting a month or two?

niceoneted

I agree with above. I think the fact you two have been in constant contact via call/text since says a lot. He knows his career is demanding and he is making the effort to keep you there for when he is free. It would be very easy for him to switch off if he wanted to .
I would wait for him to be free and go on a few dates - mind you if someone better comes along I'd be tempted - you know the old saying feast or famine!
Another thing I have learned over the years is not to tell too much about what is going on to friends or family. Its all very easy for them to advise but they might do very differently if in the same boat. It's hard to fight emotion. I don't even advise friends now when they ask in relation to some areas of their life as I know from past experience they will do their own thing even if it leads to hurt.
Overall I think it is a positive meeting/relationship what ever way you would like to put it and lastly if he is a rugby player I'm jealous as hell!! Love them all.

LegacyUser

overanalysing wrote: »

It's just that a few of my friends, especially my male friends, have said that no guy is going to still be interested in a girl they've hooked up with once if they don't see her for that long and that he'll lose interest soon in me.

Don't listen to your male friends, it's obvious they fancy you and are kicking themselves they didn't make a move sooner. Ignore completely what they're saying because it's advice that serves them only.

This man is texting and calling, saying he thinks your lovely and would really like to meet up with you again. These are the actions of a man who is interested!