Received a very disturbing e-mail

LegacyUser

I have a cosmetic issue. It is something I have been living with for a long time. It is an obvious cosmetic issue however I can conceal it and hide it very well. Its gets me down from time to time in that I ask myself 'why me?'. I do like to keep positive about it and any time I get down about it (which is very rarely) I think about people out in the big bad world with more serious issues like health and illness conditions and think that this is nothing compared to problems that other people face. It is a cosmetic issue that I hope to fix in the future with surgery however that surgery will be very costly.

I had a row with my sister a last month. I so badly want to speak and talk to her to put things right and I have tried but she walks away ignoring me. We were rowing about something that we were both at fault over but it seems as if she doesn't want to take any responsibility fow where she went wrong and is pinning all the blame on me.

I received an email from her during the week. In the email she wasn't even trying to put things right. She wrote and called me bad names in the email, names like a wh0re. She wrote badly about me and especially my body and my cosmetic issue. She finished the email telling me to go f*ck myself and my apology.

OS119

she obviously doesn't want to be friends with you, and i'm assuming you wouldn't want to be friends with someone who deliberately used your cosmetic problem as a weapon to slag you down despite knowing how deeply that problem affects you - and, i'm assuming, how irrelevent your appearance was the original disagreement.

who's right and who's wrong is irrelevent, she doesn't want to be friends with you - and she doesn't have to, thats one of the great things about being an adult in a liberal democracy - and shown herself to have a rather nasty, vicious streak in her personality.

its sad when siblings can't be at least civil to each other, but i'm not sure how - for the sake of your mental health and self-respect - you could have anything more to do with this person...

shinny

That's really nasty. I have two sisters and I can't imagine every using anything they don't like about themselves against them. Believe me, we have had our disagreements over the years but none of us would ever stoop that low.

I think the best thing you can do now is steer clear of her and wait for her to realise how nasty she has been. Unless she's a total callus person, it will come.

Please don't go trying to make amends again, let her come to you now. You need to stand up for yourself.

Have you any other brothers and sisters? What do they think? What do your parents think about this?

LegacyUser

This is the sister here.

Oh i love these threads! As always, i am painted as the bitch here for having feelings and letting them show. OP forgot to mention, she has nasty moods and turns on me and blames me for everything that goes wrong in her life. Endless of times, she has blamed me and then makes up stories on boards. Not once have i ever received an apology for her moods towards me. Blames me and tells me im just being spiteful towards her.

You mention i walk away and ignore you, i took your abusive crap for so long - not anymore!

You try to talk to me? Try saying sorry first instead of blaming it on me - i am only human and do get mad if i am blamed for something i did / didn't do / being called spiteful and jealous / i was named as 'weasel' in her phone, long before we stopped talking. I do have a name, you know?

You want some more advice from people on boards? Why don't you tell them about your email to me threatening to email the college i am applying to just so i won't get in? Ah sure you might as well, ask for advice on how to stop beating animals too.

Take a look at yourself and sort your paranoia out. Stop hitting animals to get to me. Stop blaming me and when you do wake up to yourself and realise you shouldn't be blaming me for everything that goes wrong in your life - try apologising. Until then i don't want anything to do with you.

Zaph

Ffs, not you two again. How many more times do you have to be told that we're fed up with you playing out this sort of crap on Boards? We have all gone way past caring about whatever childish issues you have, if you can't resolve them properly face to face like the adults you're supposed to be, you're most certainly not going to resolve them here. So for the last time, go away and stop bugging people here with this sh*t.