Boss fliriting with me

LegacyUser

I work in a bar, i'm 21 and ive come to realise my boss is always flirting with me.
he is around 30, he has a girlfriend and a kid with her, but even when she is in the bar he will still mess around with me, poking me , making jokes, innocent flirting.
but recently he's been giving me lifts home, i only live down the road but he inisits i don't walk at 3am in the morning!
and he keeps mentioning how his girlfriend pisses him off, and making passing comments about how romantic the sunrise is and that he'll show me one day etc, giving me big hugs when i leave the car and all that.
the thing is i really fancy him now because he's always so nice and funny to me, and i dont want him to make a move for it to be awkward for me and him and his gf and how i'd have to leave my job cause it's so hard to find a new one right now. but if he did make a move i think i so would let him, I've been single for a year and its been a sort of fantasy having sex with my boss.

what should i do?

Kanye

The first thing about this is that he's your boss and it's probably inappropriate for him to make a move on you for that reason alone. Other than that, I can tell you now the only thing worse than being the "other woman" is being the girlfriend.

I've seen it happen too many times that the other woman ends up getting socially shunned and blamed for everything that went wrong, while the happy couple pretend to get on with their relationship - which will eventually break down because of the lack of trust.

And don't think for one second that he'll come to you when that happens either!

LegacyUser

Hi Op. Your boss sounds to me like a real sleaze. I don't think that you should be under any illusions that you are the only other woman either. Its wrong on so many levels. Firstly, think about how you would feel if you were the other woman. Secondly, if you were to do it, eventually it would break down and how do you think work would be after that? Thirdly, if he's flirting like this with you chances are there are others and that he'd just use you. I'm sure that you have more self respect than to get played like that.

miec

The first thing about this is that he's your boss and it's probably inappropriate for him to make a move on you for that reason alone. Other than that, I can tell you now the only thing worse than being the "other woman" is being the girlfriend.

I've seen it happen too many times that the other woman ends up getting socially shunned and blamed for everything that went wrong, while the happy couple pretend to get on with their relationship - which will eventually break down because of the lack of trust.

And don't think for one second that he'll come to you when that happens either!

+ 1

Op be very careful here because he is breaking boundaries and being extremely unfair here, how would you feel if you were his girlfriend and he was trying to cheat with another woman. If you do decide to have a relationship with him, then ensure he is single, that way at least you won't get labelled as a homewrecker but if you can try and step back from this and look at the situation with objectivity.

seahorse

Go for it... and say hello to the dole queue.