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I'm a lonely single college student

  • 09-04-2010 11:02pm
    #1
    FewToLose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 122 ✭✭


    Hi everyone

    Just wanted to see if anyone feels the same as me? I'm 19 going on 20, single and very lonely. All my friends are in relationships while I spend my saturday nights watching TV with my parents. I hate college cos I get so lonely during the week with all my friends and housemates going on nights out with their boyfriends while I'm stuck there, alone, and with no chance of meeting anyone any day soon.

    Am I alone??


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  • #2
    JBoyle4eva
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,264 ✭✭✭JBoyle4eva


    You're not alone but you certainly don't have to be alone either. You should try going out with your mates who are in relationships. Unless all your mates are rude and make you feel like the third wheel in a deliberate way, there shouldn't be a problem. I'm in a relationship myself and I actually go out of my way to socialise with single mates as much as mates who are in relationships and my partner as well. Most couples would like their mates to go for drinks with them so you should approach some of them about mixing with them for a few hours.

    You could also try and maybe find some of your mates who are single and try to socialise with them moreso than your mates who are attached. Just don't try to focus on being single too much. If it's getting you down, perhaps try a speed dating event to spice things up and give yourself a laugh


  • #3
    anomalous
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 102 ✭✭anomalous


    hi why cant you go out with your friends i know its kinda crap when al your friends are going out with someone but i would still go out with them if that was the only option

    and if going out with them is not an option try organising class nites out or joining societies in the college or sports teams - think outside the box - chat to people you wouldn't normally have talked to -join groups

    you dont have to be alone :)


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    im exactly the same.. 19 going on 20, in college.. single with all my friends in relationships cept me.. i also live on my own which is even worse :(.. since iv been in college i havent even made new friends and im really lonely.. im in just the same ( if not even worse) situation.. your not alone, you will find someone.. i can understand not wanting to go out with your friends if theyre always with their other half but have you tried asking them if they wanna have just a girls/boys night out?? that would be good if your trying to meet someone else. try and organise girls/boys nights in/out together aswell once a week. when i was in a relationship, i really appreciated when one of my friends invited me over to come over to watch a movie and have a few drinks.. people do get sick of spending time with the same person all the time when theyre in a relationship! they just forget to ask about going out with friends after awhile.. you should make the invitations.. they would enjoy the night.. they just forget how fun it is to have a night in/out with their friends :D


  • #5
    tenchi-fan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,339 ✭✭✭tenchi-fan


    hi.
    i went to college in my home town. in the evenings i was stuck at home, miserable!
    i suggest you move out of home and enjoy life while you're still young!


  • #6
    krudler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 34,788 ✭✭✭✭krudler


    FewToLose wrote: »
    Hi everyone

    Just wanted to see if anyone feels the same as me? I'm 19 going on 20, single and very lonely. All my friends are in relationships while I spend my saturday nights watching TV with my parents. I hate college cos I get so lonely during the week with all my friends and housemates going on nights out with their boyfriends while I'm stuck there, alone, and with no chance of meeting anyone any day soon.

    Am I alone??

    Without sounding too blunt, how exactly are you going to meet anyone sitting in watching tv with your parents? guys arent going to come knocking at your door, you need to get out and meet them, surely your friends who are in relationships have single friends? why not arrange a night out and if they know anyone they think you might like to bring them along? no pressure just see what happens. only you can change this.


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  • #7
    tweety_bird
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭tweety_bird


    I can really emphathise with you. Single girl, at college but living at home with strict parents. Really finding it hard to socialise with friends in my course because even though we all get on like a house on fire, they all live on campus. They all go out ogether as they live so close to each other and talk about their great nights out when like you im stuck at home with the parents. I try my best to go out with the friends I do have and socialise but it feels like im missing out on a college experience. I would move out apart from the lack of a cash flow at the moment.

    These things can get you down but try not to. Try joining a new club or society and make some new friends that you have an interest in common with.


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