One sided relationship?

LegacyUser

Hi all, just need a bit of advice really, I'm with my boyfriend for the past four years and I really love him, but lately feel like I make All the effort in the relationship, from the little unimportant things to the big issues. He has two children from a previous relationship whom I love, they stay with up regularly and I will always go out of my way to plan things/make sure they enjoy their time with us, far more than he would. On a daily basis I'm the one who will cook/clean etc.. Even though I work all day and he's at home as he works nights, okay a lot of the time he's working at home, but if the house is dirty when I leave it, you can bet your bottom dollar it will be the same when I return. If we ever go anywhere for a meal or a drink it's me who has to suggest things. We never go away for a weekend, this in particular has been bothering me lately, he know's I'd love just a night or two away, just the two of us with nothing else to worry about but won't do anything about it. I've had this conversation with him a million times and he agrees that yes, sometimes these little things are important but as yet will do nothing about it. I could just book something myself, but I've done this every single time we've gone anywhere in the past four years and have told him I'm reluctant to "drag" him away again. I don't know what's wrong with him, sometimes he has the same lax attitude towards his children, he loves them to bits and would spend hours talking about them, but when it comes to organising time with them he's terrible, and it's usually up to me to do this because if I don't nothing will happen and they'll be missing him. Agh.. I'm just at the end of my tether with him and would like some advice..

niceoneted

He's not going to change so either put up with it or leave him. You deserve so much better.