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Do i give off the wrong vibes????

  • 08-04-2010 6:35pm
    #1
    scarymoon1
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    The last 3 guys ive been with only wanted me for sex..... the last guy was upfront and said he only wanted casual fun with me, he said i was hot and i looked like id be good in bed!!!! i was wearing black, 'unslutty' clothes fff!! and we only talked chit chat, no flirting. i said if he wanted to get to know me and not just sex then grand, he said he'd leave it. have i only met rats??? i dont think there are any decent men!!!!


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  • #2
    tbh
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    what were the three guys before that like?


  • #3
    scarymoon1
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    tbh wrote: »
    what were the three guys before that like?

    i met them all on the net - mite avoid the net in future... they all just wanted sex... similar to the last guy.


  • #4
    tbh
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    scarymoon1 wrote: »
    i met them all on the net
    bingo :)

    I'm not saying all the guys on the net (or dating sites) are looking for sex, but the majority of guys looking for sex will use the net, if you get me. Don't go judging yourself tho, it's not something you're doing wrong (apart from using the net to meet people). If you're using dating sites, then don't meet people until you've been back-and-forthing with them for a while over email. If they pressure you to meet up, it's probably cause they are trying to close the deal.

    but like I said, don't be too hard on yourself.


  • #5
    gagiteebo
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    OP I hear you :rolleyes: After a couple of horrible relationships the guys I'm meeting recently only seem to be interested in sex. I haven't met them online though but I'm wondering am I giving off some sort of vibe as well :confused: I don't dress what you would class as 'slutty' and I'm not into one night stands etc

    My question is how do you know if a guy (that you've met online or elsewhere) is simply interested in sex or genuinely likes you and is a normal, red-blooded male? :confused:


  • #6
    LegacyUser
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    gagiteebo wrote: »
    My question is how do you know if a guy (that you've met online or elsewhere) is simply interested in sex or genuinely likes you and is a normal, red-blooded male? :confused:

    i want to know it too. how?


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  • #7
    Barracudaincork
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    gagiteebo wrote: »
    My question is how do you know if a guy (that you've met online or elsewhere) is simply interested in sex or genuinely likes you and is a normal, red-blooded male? :confused:

    If you want to know the answer to that question, you wait awhile before you do have sex with them. If he is only interested in sex you wont hear from him if you keep him waiting, if he likes you and is a normal red blooded man, he will wait, but god help you when he does get you naked!!! :)

    IMO since the recession and people have less cash more people are looking for sex on the net, where they could get it elsewhere before in pubs, clubs etc doesnt mean everyone is out for that, but the number who are have increased.


  • #8
    gagiteebo
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    Barracudaincork wrote: »
    If you want to know the answer to that question, you wait awhile before you do have sex with them. If he is only interested in sex you wont hear from him if you keep him waiting, if he likes you and is a normal red blooded man, he will wait, but god help you when he does get you naked!!! :)

    IMO since the recession and people have less cash more people are looking for sex on the net, where they could get it elsewhere before in pubs, clubs etc doesnt mean everyone is out for that, but the number who are have increased.

    Interesting ;) Some good advice there! I think I shall be using it too.....weed out the ones that aren't worth it :)


  • #9
    Miss Fluff
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    scarymoon1 wrote: »
    The last 3 guys ive been with only wanted me for sex..... the last guy was upfront and said he only wanted casual fun with me, he said i was hot and i looked like id be good in bed!!!! i was wearing black, 'unslutty' clothes fff!! and we only talked chit chat, no flirting. i said if he wanted to get to know me and not just sex then grand, he said he'd leave it. have i only met rats??? i dont think there are any decent men!!!!

    Happens me a lot as well. There are a lot of guys out there who will chance their arm and will move swiftly on if they know you're not interested in casual sex. And I think a lot of them spread the net REALLY wide. Look at it this way, not be too crude, but if you throw enough sh1t, some of it has got to stick. A lot of these guys will literally proposition anyone and everyone at eye level, and they WILL find a chick willing to give it up for the night etc. It's nothing to do with vibes you are giving off, you're just meeting a series of blokes chancing their arm, you just happen to be one of the chicks that says no.

    Some good advice given above. Don't agree to meet someone until you've actually spent some time getting to know them through emails etc. And if you actually think you like a guy then it's no harm waiting to have sex with him, hard and all as that can be. Keep the faith girl, there are some good guys out there too. (Although NOT the guy from a dating website I'm on who is relentless with his emails who I saw in Tesco on Baggot Street on Tuesday packing up his trolley with his WIFE).....Oh how I smirked and tutted....:rolleyes:


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    LegacyUser
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    Miss Fluff wrote: »
    . (Although NOT the guy from a dating website I'm on who is relentless with his emails who I saw in Tesco on Baggot Street on Tuesday packing up his trolley with his WIFE).....Oh how I smirked and tutted....:rolleyes:

    sorry about that. she just doesn't understand me,.


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