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Too slow?

  • 08-04-2010 11:55am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Seeing a guy for about three months now, all going well. Hes nice, we get on well, taking it slow and getting to know each other.

    My problem is it seems to be reaching a plateau or something and isn’t really moving forward. We meet about two-three times a week and have a nice time together. We are both busy and plan lots of things and have lots coming up but we never mention inviting the other person. He is planning a few things at the moment and has a few different friends’ parties coming up for example but has not said anything about inviting me. This didn’t bother me before as I thought well we’re only getting to know each other, but at this stage it gets a bit wearisome or something. I did invite him to something last week which he couldn’t come to.. but don’t think Im getting an invite to his things.

    Re-reading my post one thing that is coming through is he’s not that into me! Though it’s not like that when we do meet, he’s very keen and nice and all and he does lots of sweet things for me.. At this stage Im tinking I might just end things if this doesn’t start moving a bit quicker.. But then maybe Im just being over-the-top. Anyone any advice on what I should do?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    before u go running to break up with him - have u asked him if you could join him on these upcoming events? seriously, guys sometimes just don't think to ask...u'll be able to tell a lot from his answer...if he makes excuses/turns you down well there you go...then again, if he says yes, but doesn't invite you to other things (providing u've explained WHY u want to go ie - have a chat about what ye both want in the future).....maybe he's lazy and doesn't think, or he's not interested.

    sometimes ppl will plod along, happy enough but not really committed....it's still early days but I guess no harm in talking about how u both feel.

    chill a bit though, at 3 months, (how old are ye by the way?) it's still only the start, and he might be cautious at introducing u to friends and family just yet....I know I would prob wait till a bit later


  • #3
    ApeXaviour
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    What age are you both?
    romeoof wrote: »
    he’s very keen and nice and all and he does lots of sweet things for me.
    Have you even kissed?

    I'd second the other poster's comment. Prod a little before you end it. Ask if you can come along to something. You can be coy (not too much) about it "you're looking forward to mike's party so? Sounds like it will be fun! Your friends might be impressed if you had a pretty girl on your arm". If he doesn't react to that then just ask him outright a little later if he was thinking of taking you to any of these social events. You'll be able to tell a lot.


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