need advice on ex girlfriend !!!!

imintrouble

ok ill keep this short even tho its a long story meet ex in states in 02 fell in love with her we got on un belivablely well def love at 1st sight we bought a house in 06 she started working for me ( this is all in ireland ) we were in each others faces all the time i have no prob with that but i needed some space also we started to argue over this we broke up in 08 mutually she moved out this was fine for the 1st 2 months then it hit me i f..kd up tried to get her back proposed to her no good but we were still in contact and got on brill my heart was broken tho . asked her back again in june 09 we were sorting out house she said no so i said ok then i gave up oct 09 i at a party which she also at i have new girl with me ex spends all night in toilet crying and tells my mates she still loves me . so i meet her few days later and sleep with her ** doesnt feel right for me so i tell her after a few days i cant do this she s upset but understands .she asks me back a week later i say yes then change my mind .jan 10 after some thaught i write her a letter decided i give it a shot declared un dying love in letter she responds we get it on after 1 wk we had meet 1 or twice she rang me up and f**kd me out off it giving out blah blah cause i went for few drinks with mate im kinda going what ever .... 3 wks later its same again no talk since i said to myself i dont need this .april 10 my best mates wedding is on and i going alone because i dont want to hurt her she s bringing some dude and i taught it wouldnt bother me but its killing me i still love her any advice ??????????????

Esel

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Anyway, my 2c. Move on, it's pretty obvious it's never going to work between you.

LegacyUser

imintrouble wrote: »

oct 09 i at a party which she also at i have new girl with me ex spends all night in toilet crying and tells my mates she still loves me .


april 10 my best mates wedding is on and i going alone because i dont want to hurt her she s bringing some dude and i taught it wouldnt bother me but its killing me i still love her

I think you are both too immature to have a relationship. The above looks more like jealous and wanting what you can't have rather than love.

Gyalist

imintrouble wrote: »

.april 10 my best mates wedding is on and i going alone because i dont want to hurt her she s bringing some dude and i taught it wouldnt bother me but its killing me i still love her any advice ??????????????

Go to the wedding on your own as planned. Be civil to your ex and her escort, but most of all mingle with the other guests and have fun. The day is about your best mate, not you and your ex. It would be a good idea not to get drunk and make a fool of yourself at the wedding.

imintrouble

hi thanks for your reply you re probably right im def immature as regaurds this situation do you tk im a fool for her ???

LegacyUser

hi, you are not mature, but you can be mature.

if you really want her, have the last talk with her (assume she's still single), calmly and firmly declare your love to her. if she said no, then, better cut all the contact and let go, let her know that it's really time to say goodbye and dont drag each other along. life is short.

if she said yes, then talk about the problems once you guys had. and dont bring the old habit into the new relationship. set say, 3 months as probation, and have a talk after that. if things go, congratulations. if things don't go well, this is the closure. goodbye and get a new person.