Advice needed :)

lulu1985

Right so one of my friends set me up with her boyfriends friend- we didnt know what each other looked like but were texting for about 3 weeks and he wanted to meet me- i let him down 3 times- first time i didnt hear from him that day so i let it off the next time i did a stupid thing and met up with an ex(he messed up again big time) the 3rd time was meant to be the day after paddys day he rang me paddys day and told me to text him. but i never did- didnt hear from him all weekend so the tuesday i text him and we were chatting away he asked what happened me? that he hadnt heard from me. so anyway we were texting and wednesday night i called over to him about 10 and we ended up chatting untill 2am and then that friday he invited me over to his for drinks and we had a great night- met up again the following wednesday, during this time- 1 of his mates rang and he put me on the phone to him and he said oh so are you his gf? then one of the other lads txt and said ooohhh look who has a new gf- we went out for a few drinks. so then saturday night he invited me over to his and i met all his mates- had a great night- ended up staying up and drinking until 7am.I was going the next morning he said to me ill probably never hear from you again after meeting all the lads last night so he kissed me and said to text him...he keeps saying that sure text me wont ya?

dont know why im even posting this though- think its because when he didnt meet me he was texting texting texting and now he still texts just not as much. am i over thinking and over analysing this waaay too much?

Blazer

Sounds like he's being normal and holding off the texting in case he scares you off.
He's probably not sure what the story is..are ye going out?, Are you into him? etc..
Next time have a good chat and lay out your relationship.
I wouldn't worry about it to be honest..seems completely normal.

lulu1985

yeah im really starting to like him- he treats me really well but im kinda like that aswell- i dont know how he feels? ya know?

The last time i was with anyone was when i was 19 and at that it was just being young- im 27 now hes 30 he has 2 little kids and ended his last relationship in december. Im just not used to all this like how do you go about doing that? having the chat?

Gyalist

lulu1985 wrote: »

yeah im really starting to like him- he treats me really well but im kinda like that aswell- i dont know how he feels? ya know?

The last time i was with anyone was when i was 19 and at that it was just being young- im 27 now hes 30 he has 2 little kids and ended his last relationship in december. Im just not used to all this like how do you go about doing that? having the chat?

Having "the chat" about what?!?

From your post you seem to have met this guy for the first time after Paddy's Day, all your meetings seem to revolve around alcohol, he's the father of two young children. Do you think that you really know this man?

Go into this with your eyes wide open and get to know the person before making any decisions. You can't possibly at this stage know enough about him to make an informed decision.

I'm surprised that a 30 year-old father of two is so concerned about what "the lads" think. That is the sort of behaviour I'd more expect from a teenage boy.

Kiera

lulu1985 wrote: »

yeah im really starting to like him- he treats me really well but im kinda like that aswell- i dont know how he feels? ya know?

The last time i was with anyone was when i was 19 and at that it was just being young- im 27 now hes 30 he has 2 little kids and ended his last relationship in december. Im just not used to all this like how do you go about doing that? having the chat?

He treats you well and you like him. Just go with it and have fun. No need to think too much into the future until you get to know each other.

Best of luck, and remember: have fun