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Over reacting or right to be upset

  • 05-04-2010 8:37pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ex... Seein him again.. ok thats not the prob (right now) but he went home to see his mum on Fri for two weeks... (abroad) and no word since fri when he text me a number to contact him on... Im havin a SHHHITTY week here.. Exams he knows im terrified of n not a text to say hi or how am i doing. I knw i can text him but thats another story. So.. Am i over reacting.. honest??? Should I just leave him to his family or should he have text?


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  • #2
    Chinafoot
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    UNREGGIAGAIN wrote: »
    Ex... Seein him again.. ok thats not the prob (right now) but he went home to see his mum on Fri for two weeks... (abroad) and no word since fri when he text me a number to contact him on... Im havin a SHHHITTY week here.. Exams he knows im terrified of n not a text to say hi or how am i doing. I knw i can text him but thats another story. So.. Am i over reacting.. honest??? Should I just leave him to his family or should he have text?

    Look, how about being a grown up and phoning your boyfriend if you want to talk to him. If you get wrapped up in stupid game playing - which is essentially what you're at here - you might as well end things now.

    He contacted you when he got there to give you the number you can reach him at. Why haven't you used it if you want to speak to him so badly? Why does he have to be the one to contact you? He could be thinking exactly the same as you, "I gave her the number and she hasn't bothered getting in touch." Grow up for goodness sake.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    hi, how long have you been with him? and did he say he will contact you?

    i met a guy and he kept on telling me he likes me a lot. but when i was aboard for 5 weeks, he never contacted me or even emailed me to ask me how things go my side. even i sent him txt, he never replies. when i was back, i called him (just because i still see him as a friend and from day one to now, i dont think we match though i like him), and he asked whether i missed him or not. and said he liked me and wanted me. i laughed and said well, i prefered to be friend. and said he does not like me that much as he thinks. he is fine with it.

    basically, i dont think the guy cared me and liked me as much as he said. and same applied to your guy. i dont think he really cares about you if he can not contact for this long.

    go find someone who cares you. but you can always stay friend with him. always good to have friends.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    China foot my whole point was that I dont want to play games.. Thats why I wanted to know if i was over reacting. Im a really caring person.. I want nothing more to text n tell him i miss him.. We used to have that.. Vintage year i have known him 3 years. we broke up n got back n now .. seeing eachother ish.. but ur right thats what i needed to here..

    If he cant care enough for me to WANT to contact then maybe i need to move on..

    China foot I text him there n i got a very quick reply that he was doing NOTHING so he could have text... Thats my point... So i wanted to know if I was over reacting on that.. but from what vintage foot says... I think he may not care... bummer.. I really love this guy.. He just cant love me like I love him.. I hate heart break!


  • #5
    unattendedbag
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 456 ✭✭unattendedbag


    Yes I think you are over-reacting. If you are streesing about "who texts who first" then whats things gonna be like when the more serious stuff in the relationship come along? Pick up the phone and have a good old conversation if your having a sh1tty time.


  • #6
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    unreggiagain wrote: »
    China foot my whole point was that I dont want to play games.. Thats why I wanted to know if i was over reacting. Im a really caring person.. I want nothing more to text n tell him i miss him.. We used to have that.. Vintage year i have known him 3 years. we broke up n got back n now .. seeing eachother ish.. but ur right thats what i needed to here..

    If he cant care enough for me to WANT to contact then maybe i need to move on..

    You haven't explained why you couldn't text him. Also, you said he left on Friday, it's now Monday. 4 days. One of which is Easter Sunday. He's with his mother so yes I think you're absolutely over-reacting.

    How do you know he doesn't care? You haven't been contacting him either. This is all very melodramatic. If you want a relationship with this guy to work you need to firstly calm down and secondly, don't be afraid to contact him. I really, really don't get why you can't.


    unreggiagain wrote: »
    China foot I text him there n i got a very quick reply that he was doing NOTHING so he could have text... Thats my point...

    Whats your point? He's away visiting his mother (and I'm sorry but if you really think he's doing nothing you're kidding yourself. He's probably, oh I dunno, hanging out with his mother and catching up with her instead of being stuck to his phone) and he contacted you when he got there. You by your own admission have only contacted him now because for some reason you seem to think you can't call him but think its out of order that he hasn't been falling all over himself to contact you. You're being very hypocritical. .
    unreggiagain wrote: »
    So i wanted to know if I was over reacting on that.. but from what vintage foot says... I think he may not care... bummer.. I really love this guy.. He just cant love me like I love him.. I hate heart break!

    Drama-lama-ding-dong. Did you reply to his message? Did you start a conversation with him? Have you considered phoning him to have an actual conversation? He can't love you like you love him?? You didn't contact him either!


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  • #7
    dublingal80
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    im with chinafoot on this one, 100%
    He has gone away to see his family, who he hasnt seen in a while, since they are aborad, so yeah, he might not be physically doing anything, but just hanging out with them and catching up. Its like you WANT to be annoyed with him. you are waiting for him to slip up so you can be all dramatic over why it didnt work out, when you arent even giving him a chance.
    I have been with my oh for nearly 4 years and if he went abroad to see his family over easter, id be texting him at least once a day to see how he is getting on. if i hadnt heard back from him by sunday or monday, id give him a bell with the number he gave me to see how he was getting on


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