Remove friend from friends list because I told her I like her and we don't speak?

LegacyUser

I was friends with a girl for a few months. I always liked her but didn't have the courage to tell her from the start. Anyway, I summoned the courage and finally told her a few months later. She didn't feel the same about me so thats fine, I understand that. The thing is though, while we were friends before, she asked me to add her on Facebook so I did. I also added her on Bebo. I know I'm making a big deal out of the whole facebook/bebo friends. Personally, I'm not really bothered if someone rejects my friend requests or if I remove friends. If I don't get along with someone, I don't need to know what they ate for breakfast .

I'm just concerned to how she might see it. She asked me at the time about the whole "can we be friends" thing when I told her how I felt. I didn't want to make the situation more awkward so I just told her at the time yeah. The thing is though, it tears me up a little everytime I go on to facebook/bebo and just find her online. I wouldn't chat with her and vice versa. Something to note as well, we used to text and hang out regularly to begin with then she seemingly cut off contact with me. That hasn't changed now either and we've only texted a few times over the last few weeks. So in terms of being in contact, there is virtually none. Trying to look at it, I'm probably hesitant to doing this because I'm clinging on some sort of hope that she's thinking about it and considering it and by removing her from my facebook/bebo would eliminate that chance. I can't say for sure since I'm a little confused but thats just some self-analysis. So, how would people view it? The reason why I'm asking this is because I've had a friend before who I had a few rows with and he was all really bothered when I removed him from my facebook. I didn't have any rows with this girl and generally, we got along fine but I guess I'm afraid that I'll hurt her feelings or make her think that I was just trying my luck and it didn't work and now I don't want to know her.

In all honesty, I couldn't be friends with her. It wasn't as if we both looked at it as a friendship that developed into interest. For me, it was interest that developed into more interest.

cafecolour

Seeing reminders of someone (like status updates) definitely can impede the process of getting over them.

So I'd remove her. It doesn't really matter what she thinks of it (if she even notices it) - you don't want to be friends with her anymore. If for some reason she asks about it (which you won't), just say you were having trouble getting over your feelings for her and had to remove reminders.

Kensington

+1 to the above

She said she just wants to be friends.
You say yourself you cannot be friends.
It's not gonna work out, unfortunately...

Cut contact is the only way forward. Facebook, Bebo, mobile number, e-mail - get rid of them all. It might hurt a lot at first to cut all contact as there's an element of finality that it isn't going to ever work, but trust me, it is a hell of a lot easier than going through month after month after month being hung up on some vain belief that it just might work out with her.