Girl in my class knows I like her, but doesn't feel same way - delicate situation

LegacyUser

ok so have a bit of a bad situation and am wonderin if u can help me out. theres a girl in my class i really like, i kinda thought maby she liked me(a big big maby lol) but it turns out she doesn't. how i found out was a another guy in class told me and its the way which she reacted that makes it kinda awkward for me. i dont no what question she asked, but i presume it was like 'does _______ like me' to which they replied 'seriously' and den she said 'i know i look it, but im not stupid' wtf!!! now im thinking that maby she thinks i only talked to her becoz i liked liked her but truth is even tho she looks great i liked her personality just as much. i mean id be happy to be her friend but i dont even think she likes me that much haha.

but thing is now i dont no what to do, i mean if we were proper friends i cud make a joke out of it but we're not. i mean least if she knew i know she wasnt interested i could show that i actually think she a cool person.

so what u think i should do?

thanks

Zaph

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PK2008

Why dont you try talking to her about it?

She's hardly going to be offended by hearing someon elikes her- its a compliment. If she doesnt liek you in that way then fair enough, just cos you like someone doesnt mean you're gonna stalk them

Taltos

OP - have to admit I can only make out around half of your post so I will keep this short.

1. Do NOT stop being friends with her - that will only show you in a bad and immature light.
2. Do not take what a friend tells you as gospel - they could have been lying (jealousy) or she could have lied to them (panic).
3. Just be a friend and take it slowly.
Finally.
Next time you like someone - man-up and tell them yourself. I know it is scary - I know your heart might feel like it will stop - but if you really like someone as much as you claim then have the guts to tell them yourself.

LegacyUser

Sorry I thought the op was easy to understand, guess i was wrong. Anyway I don't think the guy is lying to me, what he said, she said is too random, but another guy in class told me that he overhead her saying she likes me a while back. I'm really confused.

Is there anyway other than asking her I can determine how she feels?

LegacyUser

pepsicola wrote: »

Sorry I thought the op was easy to understand, guess i was wrong. Anyway I don't think the guy is lying to me, what he said, she said is too random, but another guy in class told me that he overhead her saying she likes me a while back. I'm really confused.

Is there anyway other than asking her I can determine how she feels?

You could use a magic eight ball
You look in the clouds and see if you can see an answer
You can ask others to ask her and get incorrect information via chinese whispers

OR You can ask her directly
women like confidence

LegacyUser

yeah you're right but i really just want to get behind what she meant by 'i know i look it but i'm not stupid'

so many people have commented that she's into me so i really don't know. but by 'i know i look it but i'm not stupid comment' makes me think twice about asking her

Taltos

pepsicola wrote: »

yeah you're right but i really just want to get behind what she meant by 'i know i look it but i'm not stupid'

so many people have commented that she's into me so i really don't know. but by 'i know i look it but i'm not stupid comment' makes me think twice about asking her

Context OP.
It helps to have context - one liners like about without context it's almost impossible.

So simple advice - STOP overthinking this and looking for an excuse not to act. If you like her - act on it - if you are unsure then leave the girl alone...

Personally though - that line could be an opener for you to reply "what are you talking about - you don't look stupid - you look freakin gorgeous".

Now - switch off your over-active mind and talk to the girl. As above - only she can tell you how she feels - we cannot - as the above poster mentioned the magic-8-ball might - but it tends to be a bit random sometimes.

gonnaplayrugby

ok not bothered goin re-reg, kinda obvious anyway.

i think i mite just leave this and be content in the knowledge that she did at least like me. ironic that i had no interest in her at the time and now roles have been reversed.

would it be common to fall out of a crush or find someone good looking but not into dating them?

i really like her and all but knowing she at least thinks i look good would make not getting her easier to take.

gonnaplayrugby

bump.

tbh

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

would it be common to fall out of a crush or find someone good looking but not into dating them?
.

I think it's safe to say that you better get used to it alright

You want an explanation for her comment? It seems so obvious to me that I'm afraid I'm missing something, but my take on it is:

"I know I look it but I'm not stupid"

the "I'm not stupid" bit means that she knows you like her. The "I know I look it" bit means that she's going to say something that she's worried will make her look arrogant, so she's putting herself down.
She's worried by saying " I know he's into me", people will think that she thinks shes great. Or "all that" as you kids seem to enjoy saying these days.

Caught

If I was this girl Id really just want to talk to you about it. I've often wanted to talk about something that happened with the person and straighten it out, tell them the truth and everything, but was too shy to. Make sure you have no regrets, taking a chance and failing isn't as bad as not taking it at all. You'd regret that more. Of course, everyone is different. Good luck!

gonnaplayrugby

tbh wrote: »

I think it's safe to say that you better get used to it alright

You want an explanation for her comment? It seems so obvious to me that I'm afraid I'm missing something, but my take on it is:

"I know I look it but I'm not stupid"

the "I'm not stupid" bit means that she knows you like her. The "I know I look it" bit means that she's going to say something that she's worried will make her look arrogant, so she's putting herself down.
She's worried by saying " I know he's into me", people will think that she thinks shes great. Or "all that" as you kids seem to enjoy saying these days.

ah yeah sucks tho cause she said back in november/december that she be 'interested in taking it further'... ah well

tbh

There's nothing to suggest she isn't still. In fact, i'd bet she is

gonnaplayrugby

i thought perhaps but theres just nothing there anymore. we've gone from getting on really well to being almost strangers.

I feel angry at certain people who i feel may have played a part in turning her against me :mad::mad::mad::mad:

JonathanAnon

oh man this is really tricky. Whether she says yes or no, you are still gonna have to share classes with her.. Have you considered how this would work out? Dont wreck your head about what other people are saying.

You could either try to casually
1) ask her out some night, at a college night out or something...
or
2) leave well alone.

opinion guy

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

ah yeah sucks tho cause she said back in november/december that she be 'interested in taking it further'... ah well

rugbydude!!
first off "'i know i look it, but im not stupid'" is plain and simply a deflection i would say. its a 'i'm on the spot and have to react so i'll just say anything that gives nothign away"statement. its a management tactic to avoid a conversation with whoever she was talking with about a personal subject imho. I trust in the time thats passed you've realised its a meaningless statement and that you shouldn't over-analyse such things ?

secondly - theres been far too much he said, she said in all this. Just talk to the girl. ask her! don't stress about it. it is what it is (or isn't). General rule for these things - the least amount of intermediate people involved in these things the better.

Taltos

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

I feel angry at certain people who i feel may have played a part in turning her against me :mad::mad::mad::mad:

All that does is give them power that they do not have.
And added to that - few women really like being around someone displaying jealous / irrational anger.... - just a word of warning.

What is alot more attractive is confidence - how better to display than by showing that these prats mean nada to you...

gonnaplayrugby

does anyone think the question she might have asked is 'does 'gonnaplayrugby' like me...and when they replied 'seriously' she said 'i know i look it.....'' hah its a long shot but maby.

im not really confident and even though im in good shape and all i think i look ugly

Taltos

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

does anyone think the question she might have asked is 'does 'gonnaplayrugby' like me...and when they replied 'seriously' she said 'i know i look it.....'' hah its a long shot but maby.

No one but her can tell you - but thinking like that is the fast train to head-wreckdom. If she did so what - her loss...

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

im not really confident and even though im in good shape and all i think i look ugly

Mate - this is the real issue here. You don't appear to believe in yourself at all. If you don't find yourself attractive no-one else will - or worst case you will be oblivious to them... Trust me on this...