Going Out...

reap-a-rat

Hi all!

Don't really know if this is the right place to be posting as its just a rant, but I guess its still a PI!!:D Mods feel free to move!

I'm just absolutely sick to the teeth of "Going Out"... I'm 19 years old and lately I was kinda thankful that I had no money and actually had an excuse not to go out, it frustrates me so much!! I'm in college and I don't mind it as much away from home, because there is always somewhere different to go, sometimes its hard to find the people to come with me though, my friends from home that go to the same college will only always do the same thing, drink at home then go to the club, which I'm really not a fan of! I'm all for chea nights but its always the same few people and it drives me insane!! I find that my college friends go loads of different places, and so does my boyf, but then if I decide to go out with them I'm slated by my other "Girl" friends...

At home its absolutely torturous. I haven't been out at home in ages because I'm so put off by past experience. EVERY birthday is celebrated in the same pub nearly, in a town with over 15 pubs to choose from and various other reputable pubs in the vicinity. But we can ONLY go to this one... If I suggest to one or two to go somewhere else they find fault with it, "I don't like the fella on the door", "Its too far to walk", "EVERYONE else is in this other pub..." etc... Its driving me insane!!

Now tonight is Easter sat, always a big night out, and I'm sitting here just dreading it!! The plan, supposedly, is to start early and have a drink or two in one of the local pubs, and I just know I'll be the onl one ready, then it'll be 10 pm and we'll skip that bit and go straight to "The Spot", followed by the Niteclub...

I don't know what I'm looking for, I guess I just wanted to vent my anger!! Anyone have any similar experiences??

cafecolour

Yeah, it's exhausting when you feel like your social circle is controlling you more than the other way around.

You're going to have to push back against your school friends. Giving out for going out with your BF is ridiculous. And part of the great thing about going to uni is meeting new people and new experiences. Be happy to go out with new folks.

Also, it's nice to take a break from going out for sure. Simply say you're not up for it - say you're feeling ill or you're broke if you need an excuse.

reap-a-rat

Thanks for the reply! Ah yeah, I know, I can't really break away tho, coz then it would be the typical sh!te, oh look at reap-a-rat all high and mighty now she's in college, we're not good enough anymore etc etc, ya know the common crap!! I don't even think it would be too bad if going out was actually a catch up session with people you haven't seen for ages for various reasons, but it never is!! It either ends up that the people who are in the same college keep talking about their experiences there amongst themselves or else a gang head off "To the bathroom", basically they want a bitching session!1

All I'm after is finding a quiet corner to have chat and a bit of craic, but it seems that's boring this day and age !!

PK2008

You've outgrown your old friends, it happens when you go to college, just one of those things.

Need2Know4Sure

It sounds to me that your just growing up a bit quicker than the rest of them. The day will come when you are all delighted to find a quiet corner and catch up.

As mentioned above college is all about meeting new people. Maybe you should try join some clubs and meet other people.

Then you could go out with them every now again and break up the routine.

Ridiculous they get on to you about your bfriend. Rem youll end up married someday (hopefully) where your partner it your best friend not them.

melissavm

OP i feel your pain! I'm 19 in 2 weeks and I'm steadily looking less and less forward to my celebrations. I've been going out twice or three times a week purely to take my mind of things that are going on in my personal life (friends, college, a recent break up) but i'm finding it only makes matters worse! I come home feeling awful and drunk and wishing my ex were there beside me, I wake up with a headache, feeling guilty and find it difficult to go about my day. Its a constant cycle! I'm now also broke so I might take a page out of your book and use it as an excuse to stay at home. Good luck OP, may we both find happiness in our sobriety!