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Have to get out

  • 31-03-2010 11:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    My relationship is not good for me. I'm in counseling at d moment cos I always let men treat me real bad.

    My partner is not a bad person deep down. But he's put me thru a lot. I cant talk to him. I don't feel safe. He's not stable. He's always changin his mind on things. He's selfish.

    I love him. He is a good person. Just messed up too. He's trying to work his stuff out too with profesional help. But this will be a long road. And i cant take anymore.

    I love him so much. This is so hard. We live together so I have to move out. I no this has to be done but its just hard. I'd be startin again moving out and back to my hometown. And all my friends are in serious relationships.

    I'm so afraid that i'm never going to meet anyone again. I was single for so so long before i met my partner. I know i'm gonig to feel so lonly.

    Part of me wants to stay longer to see if it will change. But its been a year and a half. Things haven't changed. But maybe they will? At least I wont be alone. Deep down I know that's the wrong way to look at things. But i'm scared. I realize how patethic I sound now. But i'm just frightened. My last break up took me ages to get over.


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  • #2
    minidazzler
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,650 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    OP, there are 6.7 billion people in this world. That is a huge amount, the chances of you NOT finding someone you click well with who is a good person are really low, especially if you put yourself in situations where you are open to it.

    If you don't feel safe around him, if he is generally just being a bad person, then he is a bad person, he is not gonna change that overnight, even if he swears to you he will.

    Just get out now before you get hurt or worse. The longer you stay the harder it will get after all.


  • #3
    dublingal80
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,540 ✭✭✭dublingal80


    have2getout wrote: »
    My relationship is not good for me. I'm in counseling at d moment cos I always let men treat me real bad.

    My partner is not a bad person deep down. But he's put me thru a lot. I cant talk to him. I don't feel safe. He's not stable. He's always changin his mind on things. He's selfish.

    I love him. He is a good person. Just messed up too. He's trying to work his stuff out too with profesional help. But this will be a long road. And i cant take anymore.

    I love him so much. This is so hard. We live together so I have to move out. I no this has to be done but its just hard. I'd be startin again moving out and back to my hometown. And all my friends are in serious relationships.

    I'm so afraid that i'm never going to meet anyone again. I was single for so so long before i met my partner. I know i'm gonig to feel so lonly.

    Part of me wants to stay longer to see if it will change. But its been a year and a half. Things haven't changed. But maybe they will? At least I wont be alone. Deep down I know that's the wrong way to look at things. But i'm scared. I realize how patethic I sound now. But i'm just frightened. My last break up took me ages to get over.


    OP - read what I have in bold.
    You know what you have to do. Yeah its scary breaking up with someone that you have been with for a year and a half because what you are used to and what you have become comfortable with is now gone, of course thats scary, but its either that, or spend longer with him, feel more scared and then have it 4 years down the line and want to break up with him

    dont waste your life being unhappy. You MUST look after yourself. I can promise you in a few months, or a year down the line you will look back and see that leaving him was the best thing you ever did

    Best of luck


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