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  • 31-03-2010 1:38am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Silly PI, but I'm so annoyed right now, as people I know keep having babies all at the same time. I want a child more than anything, yet as a (single) male it is constantly frowned upon. I should be out "playing the field", "having fun, no harm done" etc., yet all I want is a family around me. A partner, a child, and all that goes with it.

    It's doing my head in to be honest.

    Why can't I be normal like everyone else?


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  • #2
    seenitall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,724 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Forget about "normal", the way people feel does not respond to normatives and categorisations well. Nor should it. Some people get broody at 20, some other people never do. That's all there is about "normality".

    All that is wrong with you is that you haven't met the right girl/guy yet.

    But what I do hold with is that you should be "having fun", however much it pains you to, cos you know, as the song says "you can't hurry love" ;), and I can promise you that the song doesn't lie. It will all happen when it is ready to happen, in the meantime really all you can do is to have fun and put yourself in as many social situations as possible, so that you give yourself the best chance of meeting someone special. Is that going to be a difficult thing to do? :D

    Please relax, and don't keep wrecking your head with these longings you have, if you give it free rein it can become very unhealthy in the long run. Have patience with life, good things are on the way!


  • #3
    Peggypeg
    Closed Accounts Posts: 578 ✭✭✭Peggypeg


    Hey OP,

    Don't be putting yourself down. Believe me there is nothing wrong with knowing what you want in life, in fact it's a major plus. Don't think you're not "normal", no one's "normal", well except really really really boring people, I'm not "normal", I spin fire hula hoops around my head for fun, that's not "normal" but it's fun. Stop thinking about what other people want and how it differs from what you want. The rest of the population is still wondering what they want. Surely you can see how positive it is to know what you want in life? So anyways with regards the girl and kids, I agree that you can't hurry love, it will find you when you least expect it but in the mean time you can work on having stuff that will make starting a family easier, like savings and a good job etc, all that would make starting a family easier when you do find the right girl.

    Chin up, it'll happen :)


  • #4
    xzanti
    Moderators, Entertainment Moderators Posts: 10,446 Mod ✭✭✭✭xzanti


    Awe you sound like a lovely chap, may I ask how old you are? I know it's a bit of an old cliche but it will happen when the time is right :) and when you have kids running around and you haven't a minute to yourself you'll more than likely look back on your carefree days and wish you'd enjoyed them more.. I know that's not much of a help to you right now though..


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