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Is it normal that only 1 person wears the pants in the relationship?

  • 30-03-2010 1:53pm
    #1
    buddyNozzy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8 ✭buddyNozzy


    I'll be honest im the one wearing the pants and wearing the pants ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLL The TIME.
    My husband knew i was the pants wearer before he married me and hey he still loves me- always has and hopefully always will.
    Im having difficulties at the moment because (although i normally try my best not to care about what people think) this is really getting to me.
    A few of my husbands friends have a problem with me wearing the pants (needless to say they are the pants wearers in their relationships), so they automatically think my husband is unhappy in our marriage, which after talking this over with him and even telling him i had contemplated leaving him for fear his friends were right and he was unhappy. Anyway after much discussion he told me they are clearly wrong and he loves me and is really happy with our life together.
    Now i cant get past the fact they think im this HORRIBLE, WICKED WIFE and please trust me i may be the dominant one but i loveeeeeeeee my husband
    just needed to vent.


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  • #2
    Malari
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,150 ✭✭✭✭Malari


    buddyNozzy wrote: »
    Is it normal that only 1 person wears the pants in the relationship?

    Not for me, my relationship is pretty equal.


  • #3
    lil'bug
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,506 ✭✭✭lil'bug


    it doesn't matter what other people think of you relationship as long as you and your husband are happy with each other thats all that matters, no two relationships are the same so don't waste your time worrying about what other people think


  • #4
    Braden Beautiful Custodian
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Braden Beautiful Custodian


    pretty sure ours is equal, we're certainly both as stubborn as each other


  • #5
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Depends what you mean, tbh. If you're in charge of the household income, chores, shopping, bills, etc etc that's one thing. If you're dictating what your husband can and cannot do personally that's another.


  • #6
    John Mason
    Hosted Moderators Posts: 10,661 ✭✭✭✭John Mason


    completely 50/50


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  • #7
    Dinkie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,293 ✭✭✭Dinkie


    I think I'm the bossier one, but it is 50:50.


  • #8
    orourkeda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,918 ✭✭✭✭orourkeda


    Arent relationships a lot better when each person has their pants off.


  • #9
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Omg... I swear I thought the OP was saying she only wears the one pair of pants :D

    *shakes self up*


    Umm.. I guess 50/50 is the best way to be. But if one or the other is happy to take the back seat so to speak, it can work I suppose.


    I tend to be the 'pants wearer', but so long as the other party is willing to make some choices and give direction, I'm happy to follow suit.


  • #10
    Latchy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    shellyboo wrote: »
    Depends what you mean, tbh. If you're in charge of the household income, chores, shopping, bills, etc etc that's one thing. If you're dictating what your husband can and cannot do personally that's another.

    From a male perspective

    I agree . Wearing the pants is one thing ,walking all over your partner at every turn and oppurtunity is only going to cause resentment .50/50 is ideal ,as long as there is some slack in the rope at times from both sides

    Abitar wrote: »
    Umm.. I guess 50/50 is the best way to be. But if one or the other is happy to take the back seat so to speak, it can work I suppose.

    I tend to be the 'pants wearer', but so long as the other party is willing to make some choices and give direction, I'm happy to follow suit

    As above


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