How do I get my ex to meet up with me?

LegacyUser

Hi all, finished with the bf about two weeks, broke up over a silly arguement (he dumped me). He text me a few times since and I text him too, kind of hi how are you stuff. Really miss him. Chatted on the phone last night for half an hour, he heard that some one was cracking onto me the other night and was wondering what the story is (delighted that he heard that!!!). Anyway, I'm wondering what the best way to meet up with him would be. He's really stubborn so don't think it'll work if I ask him to meet to talk about us. Have a few things to give back to him but nothing major. Really want to see him but don't know how to go about it without seeming desperate!!

LegacyUser

Hi Op, Been honest him ringing to find out what was with someone else was doing cracking on to you sounds like ego.
I would not try meet up with him,and carry on with your life and have fun.If he really wants you back let him make the move.It sounds like he broke up with you.So therefore leave him to come back.
Best of luck girl in what ever will come:) but enjoy life you only have it once,take your mind off things and go out and do things you like to do.

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.”

Lucyx

meeting up to give him back his belongings is a perfect excuse so you could say that and then when you meet him have some fun and be outgoing and try to have a good laugh with him and just see how things go then.

but in fairness if someone really WANTS to meet you then they will regardless of stubbornness.

best of luck!

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies! ya he finished with me, we were going out for 2 years i really do want him back tho, we really were great together...he sounded surprised that I'm texting this new guy already, asking all about him and was he nice to me and stuff. he text me after to say he hadn't kissed anyone since we broke up and isn't planning on it anytime soon but that what I want to do is up to me. Also said his mam was saying hes a fool for breaking up with me! the thing is we live quite far apart (nearly two hours) and I don't really know if he'll go for meeting up if I suggest it. Was thinkin of saying its so I can clear my head and give this new guy a proper chance but this could be completely the wrong thing to say (even tho this isn't really what I want!)!! advice greatly appreciated! thanks again!!

LegacyUser

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thanks for the replies! ya he finished with me, we were going out for 2 years i really do want him back tho, we really were great together...he sounded surprised that I'm texting this new guy already, asking all about him and was he nice to me and stuff. he text me after to say he hadn't kissed anyone since we broke up and isn't planning on it anytime soon but that what I want to do is up to me. Also said his mam was saying hes a fool for breaking up with me! the thing is we live quite far apart (nearly two hours) and I don't really know if he'll go for meeting up if I suggest it. Was thinkin of saying its so I can clear my head and give this new guy a proper chance but this could be completely the wrong thing to say (even tho this isn't really what I want!)!! advice greatly appreciated! thanks again!!

Hi Op,I know its hard right now your break up so fresh and sore
You shouldn't i think jump straight back in to anything else and tell your ex that its just a friend and not intending on dating any time soon either(Incase he is having second thoughts)But do not wait forever! If you give this other guy a chance so soon after break he will be only a rebound.Give yourself some time for yourself.And you are right do not say that if you want any chance of getting back with him.

I know you want him back right now but you have to accept he broke up with you, and have to leave him be and let him either come to his senses or let you move on with your life.
Take care hope this helps

LegacyUser

thanks for the advice! to be honest this other guy caught me off guard, not really sure if I have any interest, just keep comparing him to my ex and kinda makes me feel sick thinking about kissing someone else, but all my friends say it'll be a good distraction. Nice to know that someone has an interest in me but don't want to jeopardise things with my ex for the sake of a stranger (probably ridiculous to be thinking like this as I may never see my ex again). He said he wants to be alone for a while, think that he thought that would mean I would be alone too, probably waiting for him or something. Gave him a fright I think cos he knew how mad about him I was. But from my point of view he changed so quickly so maybe he needs to realise that I wasn't as dependent on him as he thought I was. Still think about him constantly and I really do love him...really want to see him to be sure that its def over and if it is then at least I'll have closure just don't know how to go about it!!

wicklori

Probably most of the people who will reply here (me included) will think that it's best to try to move on and not look back... That said... You came here to ask for advice on how to get him to meet you, not advice about WHETHER to meet him.

If you need to see him, which you seem to think you do (this I understand, believe me!) then, tell him you're really glad you are in contact as you are going to be in his neck of the woods on x day and you'd like to see him to give back whatever stuff and you'd really appreciate if he could see you just for a few minutes as you'd like to clear the decks (as an earlier poster said) to give his new guy a proper chance....

If he's stubborn as you say then this gives him the opportunity to meet you without losing any face and also pushes him a little to take the opportunity to claim you back if that's what he actually wants before you are actually going out with this other guy.

Best of luck... But be warned, he may just be fishing out of curiosity, familiarity and a weird feeling that 'his woman' is with someone else even though he doesn't want you....

LegacyUser

thanks again for the advice!! sounds like a good plan, the only thing is he knows I won't be in his "neck of the woods" as we live very far away from each other. The only reason we would be in each others counties is if we had arranged to meet up. Used to meet up half way so maybe that would be an option if hes open to it?

LegacyUser

ok so he's agreed to meet up!! what do i do now??? aaagh!!