Gifts from bride and groom

mrsberries

Hi

Getting married in 3 weeks and a bit clueless about certain traditions -

1. who do we give gifts to and whats appropriate? mothers, bestman and bridesmaid, flower girls?

2. do we need to exchange gift ourselves during the ceremony? If so, what?

Never been heavily involved in a wedding and with our small wedding abroad we've managed to avoid all the extras (getting bogged down with favours, extra drinks for toasts etc) so not sure if ive forgotten something or will offend anyone.

Thanks
clueless bride :pac:

billybunty

Good Post! Am getting married in September. I Think for the mothers of the bride and groom its flowers. For the bridesmaids in my case we are getting them jewellry, undecided for the best man/groomsmen - we think cufflinks or something.
Flower girls and page boys - hhhmm, had't thought about that myself - not sure if you need to...
As for exchanging gifts to each other, I would imagine this is up to each couple - I know we will most likely exchange gifts of sorts, be it on the day or during the wedding weekend etc

hazeler

What I know from the weddings we've been at is that the mothers get flowers. The bridesmaids got the jewellery that they wore on the day and the bestman, groomsmen got cuff-links. BUt I guess it's up to you who you want to give gifts to, I dont think there should be a presumption that "these people" get gifts.

In our case, we're doing flowers for our Mothers, the flower-girl is my daughter (but not my h2b's, if you get me!) and he wants to present her with something special on the day, so we're thinking a charm bracelet that we can add to on special occassions over the years.

We are getting the groomsmen cufflinks made on Etsy http://www.etsy.com/shop/TheClayCollection They are all gamers and they will all be game related. They all own black suits so are wearing them and we're buying them their converse shoes and a new shirt and tie. My bridesmaids are getting decked head to toe in dresses they can wear again from http://www.vivienofholloway.com/ and we'll pick up their shoes etc so thats our gift to them. We're very tight budgeted and want to gift something they can use again, hence our plans so far!

we haven't planned on presents for each other, hadn't really thought about it tbh! but it sounds like a sweet idea, a little personal token to mark the day... is there not a tradition that the groom gives the bride a silver coin on the day?

SeekUp

mrsberries wrote: »

1. who do we give gifts to and whats appropriate? mothers, bestman and bridesmaid, flower girls?

It's typical that the bride and groom give gifts to both sets of parents as well as everyone in the bridal party. It can be anything you wish. Monogrammed gifts for the groomsmen are common, as is jewelry for the brideswomen to wear the day of the wedding (although I can say that I've been in bridal parties and have never worn the jewelry after the wedding day, which seems like a bit of a waste to me). Don't know what we're doing for attendant's gifts yet, but we want to make sure they'll get good use out of them!

mrsberries wrote: »

2. do we need to exchange gift ourselves during the ceremony? If so, what?

Again, it is my experience that the bride and groom exchange gifts the day of the wedding, but before the ceremony. If you're not seeing each other beforehand, what usually happens is that a parent or the MOH and Best Man take the gifts to the bride and groom. Again, it can be anything you want.

Hope this helps!