Jealous of Best Friend

LegacyUser

Major issue here, I'm so jealous of my best friend and feel we will stop being friends because of my inappropriate comments...I get angry because I'm jealous. I'm also worried that eventually we will move on and I'll be all forgotten even though we're best friends. I don't know how to counter these feelings because I would like not to think like this and just remain normal friends. Is the friendship doomed? Can I do anything to resolve it? Sometimes I can get really down for a few days if the feelings come....and sometimes they just go and things are alright. Anyway, just thought I'd throw this out there and see what advice comes back.

Faith

What exactly are you jealous of?

LegacyUser

That this friend will make new friends, forget me...etc. the normal...

KillerKity

Have you spoken to your friend? If yer best friends surely you can explain how you feel and he/she would understand?

LegacyUser

I think we all have a friend we feel jealous of at some stage or other, be it because of looks, popularity or success in some area. And it can be difficult to conquer these feelings. But the very aspects of that friend you are jealous of, maybe their ability to make new friends so well when you find that difficult, is also part of the reason you are friends with the person in the first place. Maybe you should look at what it is about your friend that makes them successful or admirable, the very thing you're jealous of, and see if you can take anything from that to improve yourself. For instance, I've always been envious of a friend of mine who is very dainty and graceful in her actions. Beside her I often feel like a lanky and rough person! So I do try to be more graceful and elegant. I have used the aspects of my friends behaviour that I am envious of and tried to put some of them into practice. I don't mean copying or idolising. Just taking a good influence. And I wouldn't worry about being forgotten. If they're truly your best friend then they like you as you are. Who knows, maybe your friend is envious of you in some ways too. Don't be so hard on yourself. Best of luck.

am i bovvered

Jealousy wrote: »

That this friend will make new friends, forget me...etc. the normal...

Your friend will make new friends.
A friendship is a living thing, constantly changing and its a fact that relationships will only flourish if they are healthy.
You are aware of your jealousy problem, get it out in the open, have a bit of a laugh about it..... oh and enjoy it !!

LegacyUser

I haven't spoken to my friend about this because I'm worried it will push a wedge in between us and I wouldn't like to feel awkward around them. It's weird though, because I -don't- want to feel like this and worst of all besides the jealousy, there is still an attraction there which I want to go away also. The jealousy plus the attraction is not good. It's not love, just an attraction. Is it possible to remain friends with these two combined...I want to remain friends and forget about the attraction and jealousy...just it's hard to do!