Girlfriend can't get enough

LegacyUser

Hi everyone.

Hope this is in the right forum.

Well as the title says, I have a huge problem with my girlfriend being too horny.
OK guys you will probably think how is this a problem! But to me it's getting out of control and I'm at a loss as to what to do.
We have been together almost a year. I'm 24, she's 26. From the begining she has wanted sex maybe 3 times a day, everyday. This was great in the begining, as the new part of a relationship generally is. Now I assumed this would settle down, but she is still insiatable and I just can't keep up. I feel so useless that I can't satisfy her and it's getting me down.
It's gotten to the stage now where it is all that is on my mind and I am so worried that she will look elsewhere. She just seems to have such a high sex drive.
I have spoken to her about my concerns and she tells me not to worry that she would never cheat on me as she is totally in love with me. When I am too tired or not up for sex she will go and relieve herself which makes me feel even worse. I don't feel like a real man anymore.

I just hope someone on here can throw some advise, tips in my direction. Anyone ever been in this situation and how did you work it out?

I don't want to break up with her over this. I love her to bits. But she is a very sexy, beautiful girl and I'm terrified some stud will tempt her away from me.

Please help and thanks for reading.

vicecreamsundae

i don't think you need to worry. she seems to completely understand and not expect you to get her off all the time, and is completely capable and willing to get herself off when you're not up for it. and she loves you.
so why would she look elsewhere?

you shouldnt feel bad about her masturbating -it's not that she prefers it to being with you, it's only when you arent in the mood, which is fair enough considering she has such a high sex drive. if you want to be more involved you could always use toys on her or something without having to worry about getting it up, if she were into that? but from what i've read i dont really see the problem, apart from you seem a bit insecure because she is so attractive.

but l wouldnt worry if i were you.

LegacyUser

as a girl with a high sex drive have been in that situation before from the other point of view.... firstly don't waste a minute worrying that she will cheat on you, just because you have a high libido doesn't mean you will automatically be a love rat!

Have been with two guys who had much lower sex drives than me with two very differing outcomes....

guy no 1 was intimidated by my desire for sex and made me feel unattractive and whoreish with his reaction to my come-ons, which were something along the lines off "eh I'm trying to sleep hun" and "but we had sex earlier" etc etc...... yeah that fizzled out pretty quickly!

guy no 2 used humour to diffuse the situation, laughter whilst saying "jeez I can't keep up with you, you've me worn out" "I'd love to but there isn't a drop left in me" kinda thing... still felt attractive and wanted and was happy to keep myself satisfied when he wasn't up for it (pardon the pun!)

i'd just advise you explain to your girlf that you think she is gorgeous and you'd love to be having sex all day/night long but you physically can't, it's not that she doesn't turn you on... she will understand! Now maybe thats just me needing reassurance... i wouldnt be the needy type at all but getting sexual advances rebuffed by a boyf can be a bit of a knock unless explained that sex a physical impossiblility by him!

cafecolour

Well, the older you get and 3 times a day is definitely not even physically possible

Let her masturbate when you're not game, that's the healthy thing to do.

If you're feeling helping but not 'up' to it so to speak, you can go use your fingers/mouth/sex toy/etc to get her off without getting off yourself as well.