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Chance encounter

  • 28-03-2010 12:27am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I need some opinions here - made contact with an ex whom I dated many years ago. Recently we met by sheer accident in a Coffee shop in town. We chatted for about ten minutes and then I left as a friend arrived. Back in 2003 we dated for about 6 months, then split up amicably as she relocated abroad for work reasons. I regretted splitting up with her but we both moved on and i never heard from her since. I will admit I really liked this girl and now and again I wondered whatever happened to her. So fast forward to 2010 and the accidental meeting in town. She has now returned to Ireland and we are only living a few miles apart so I thought to myself why not contact her and see if she wants to meet up so I contacted her by post but I haven't gotten a reply. Anyhow, am wondering if it was a big mistake on my part to contact her. And before you guys start calling me a stalker or whatever - I ain't. Was I a total idiot for contacting her? Maybe she's totally freaked out by being contacted although she did say where she was living. I get the feeling she is single but I could be wrong. What do you guys think?


Comments

  • #2
    niceoneted
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 463 ✭✭niceoneted


    Fair play to you. I am a great believer in instinct and have followed it like you previously - I saw someone one day I had a relationship that ended amicably with and knowing where they worked wrote to them - they got in touch with me but nothing came of it. I was glad I made the contact though as I would always have wondered.
    I find as I get older it is the things that I haven't done in life that I have regretted.There are times when I have done things that I might feel foolish about but I don't regret them.
    Give it time as she may need to digest it and be thinking how to reply, or she may just be genuinely busy/have a lot on her mind. I hope she does get in touch. I would say if you haven't heard anything within a month move on.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP here, thanks for the reply. It was a completely accidental meeting and I just decided to make contact with her afterwards. I agree - no point having regrets.


  • #4
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    My Mum works with a lady in her early 40s who twenty years ago split up with a guy for various reasons. This lady has essentially been single since, and travelled the World and did lots but wasn't that lucky with love. She bumped into him last year, was married within a few months and has just had a little boy. It's a story that warms my heart. And a lesson to follow your gut. I think writing this girl a letter is a lovely thing to do. I hope she replies.:)


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Fair play to you for contacting her - I did a similar thing not so long ago and like that hadn't seen the ex in years and decided to follow up on the initial encounter by contacting her, indeed similar to what the op did but alas I never heard anything back. Are there any other members out there who have made contact with an "old flame?


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