Alcoholism - where to get help/ assessment

LegacyUser

Hi,
I'm hoping I can get some advice from those who have been in the same situation.

Long story short, I feel that my DH has a drink problem. I have spoken to my in-laws about this in the past and they have agreed, and backed it up with their own stories that they have heard "around the place" etc - all validated stories and comments from decent people.
Anyway I have spoken to DH about this before, and he agreed to get help. He didn't, kept putting it off. I was then diagnosed with post natal depression and its only in the last couple of months (6 months on) that I am feeling more like myself. I had been giving it time to see if the problem was my perception, or a genuine issue.
I have come to realise that he has now been blaming my illness for his behaviour.
I could go on for pages with specifics but I won't bore you all.

Basically what I want to know is where do I start to get support and assessment for him. Should I speak to my GP, my PHN, the family mental health service that I am already attending for my PND? Please don't tell me to attend Al Anon, I can do that later if and when DH gets help but I feel he needs to take steps first before I can seek support myself.
Any suggestions and help would be really appreciated thanks.

JuliusCaesar

All of the above. HSE addiction services - this is just one area - will treat him free of charge.

But GP would probably be the first as s/he probably knows your husband already. But do also mention it to the PHN and mental health people as both his problem and his search for treatment will impact on you too.

TequilaMockingBird

You can't get assessment or support for him. He has to do that himself. He has to get to the point where he wants it. He may do it tomorrow, or next year or never. It is totally his decision.

You need to look after yourself, and your baby. Talk to your PHN, GP, Al-Anon, Counselor etc for support for yourself, but it's pointless trying to help him. Tell him what is acceptable to you in your relationship and your home, very clearly, and get on with your own life.

Alcohol is the most important relationship in his life. Accept that and step back from it. Live your life, and hopefully he comes back to you.

LegacyUser

Thank you, I hear what you are saying Tequilamockingbird, easier said than done though.
I am trying to focus on our babies (we have two under 3) and myself and am at the stage now where I am done with being let down constantly. I'll take steps to get support for myself and hopefully he will sort himself out and realise where his priorities lie.

TequilaMockingBird

Of course, it's easier said than done.

With 2 under 3 (:eek:) if you ever get a free moment , I would give Al-Anon a call. A call wouldn't hurt, it might not be for you, but it might be a fantastic support, nothing ventured nothing gained.

Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. I have experience of PND, Alcoholism and b*stards.