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chemistry

  • 23-03-2010 8:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    what is the deal with chemistry?
    I am in a relationship (3 years). Suddenly, for a split second a few months ago, I made this wierd eye contact with a male friend. He is also in a committed relationship. Nothing happened, or ever will, but every time we're around eachother theres this flash of eyes, we catch eachother looking. Its embarrassing, but arises all these feelings like I am a teenager again or something. Its exiting, and I look forward to being around him because of it.

    I know there's nothing to it, I wouldn't want there to be anything to it. I love my boyfriend, he would have no idea about this, in fact he'd be shocked. The man in question isn't better looking or nicer than my boyfriend, I don't have anything in common with him, he's a friend but only on the margins, like an aquaintance. I used to work with him years ago and never found him the least bit appealing, in fact I thought he was a bit of a di*k! I got to know him when he started dating a girl I know.

    I'm a girls girl and I hate that I am thinking things about a guy with a girlfriend. It's just not like me. Will this go away? or is it normal and everyone is going around feeling random chemical attractions to people who aren't even their type?? I could never do anything, I hope I could never do anything, but I have stupid fantasies about it.
    How can I get rid of this unwanted feeling? I'm 30, not that it matters! I didn't think about anyone but my boyfriend until this started happening. Does it mean my relationship is doomed?


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  • #2
    pilph
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 48 ✭pilph


    it's nothing to worry about.

    ten years ago I was in a long term relationship but used to go out with the girls at work a lot. One really took a shine to me & I liked her, but not enough to tempt me into doing anything. One thought of my girlfriend was enough to make me wise up.

    There's nothing wrong with chemistry with someone else, but it is if you want to even kiss them that the trouble starts. It sounds like you haven't even thought of that, so this seems like nothing to worry about.


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